mahon83050
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I am 28 and there is some hottie at work who is only 19. I get some good vibes from her...but I would feel like a perv going after a girl 9 years my junior. Any comments?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When is a chick too young
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm Joe Dirt
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I think once she is over 18 she is mature enough to understand the game and thus she herself becomes fair game, then again I am only 20 so I have no idea how people deal with larger disparity in age.
If you really think about it girls as young as 14 or 15 - though not still mature emotionally - already know all about playing guys, being hors, how to use men, and most of them probably know their way around a guy's body.
The biggest guilt about guys going for younger girls is that they feel more mature or wiser than the girl and therefore feel like they'd be taking advantage of her, as if she was too stupid or not mature enough to understand whats going on.
At the age of 18+ I think that is a non-issue. By that age any girl who is worth a second glance has already probably dated, most likely lost her virginity, and has dealt with numerous dramas involving guys. So the whole maturity/being new at this source of guilt should dissipate. You know what you're doing and trust me, so does she!
If you really think about it girls as young as 14 or 15 - though not still mature emotionally - already know all about playing guys, being hors, how to use men, and most of them probably know their way around a guy's body.
The biggest guilt about guys going for younger girls is that they feel more mature or wiser than the girl and therefore feel like they'd be taking advantage of her, as if she was too stupid or not mature enough to understand whats going on.
At the age of 18+ I think that is a non-issue. By that age any girl who is worth a second glance has already probably dated, most likely lost her virginity, and has dealt with numerous dramas involving guys. So the whole maturity/being new at this source of guilt should dissipate. You know what you're doing and trust me, so does she!
CoRVeTTe6699
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you got nothing to lose. my g/f's roomate was 18 and she went out with a 30 year old. my g/f thought it was freaky, but obviously her roomate did not. some girls are into that stuff. maybe she is into older guys and u can have some fun with her.
I'm in the same situation, 28 and getting a lot of interest from a 19 year old friend. I like her a lot and my friends think she has a thing for me.
We are flirty and tactile, but because of the age difference I'm hesitant about making a move unless I'm certain it will be reciprocated.
She has commented she doesn't notice the age difference, hinted that she likes mature men and when hearing about hassles from my ex she commented "she sounds immature" and "I'd never do anything like that". Various people have also commented what a great couple we would make. So in her eyes and other people's eyes the age isn't an issue.
I think our concerns may just be in our own heads, but I'd also like to hear more opinions.
We are flirty and tactile, but because of the age difference I'm hesitant about making a move unless I'm certain it will be reciprocated.
She has commented she doesn't notice the age difference, hinted that she likes mature men and when hearing about hassles from my ex she commented "she sounds immature" and "I'd never do anything like that". Various people have also commented what a great couple we would make. So in her eyes and other people's eyes the age isn't an issue.
I think our concerns may just be in our own heads, but I'd also like to hear more opinions.
octane_orphan
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.... if there's grass on the pitch! ....
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I heard "if there is grass on the field, play ball" but I guess its the same idea. Though keep in mind that if you are in a position to see if there is grass or not, you've already gone too far.
And what about chicks in their 20s that shave? Are they off limits?
And what about chicks in their 20s that shave? Are they off limits?
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Mahon-
You cannot set an "age limit". You have to deal with each individual situation as it comes your way. Someone made a comment, that if your 19 you know the game. This is false because it is generalizing age into knowledge. Most 19yr olds, male or female, think they know everything let alone the "game." IF this girl is mature and you really think theres something there then go for it. But now let me ask you the real question: is this girl the only "prospect" that you have? If so, I suggest that you put more emphasis to consider your situation than this girl.
You cannot set an "age limit". You have to deal with each individual situation as it comes your way. Someone made a comment, that if your 19 you know the game. This is false because it is generalizing age into knowledge. Most 19yr olds, male or female, think they know everything let alone the "game." IF this girl is mature and you really think theres something there then go for it. But now let me ask you the real question: is this girl the only "prospect" that you have? If so, I suggest that you put more emphasis to consider your situation than this girl.
I'm 32 and I had a date with a really cute 18 year old and we went had a great rapport and are going out again this weekend, I'm just playing things by ear and seeing what happens you know...
I can tell you that there was a lot of flirting on her behalf and a lot of touching and playing around too...so I don't know she also told me that she already feels like she knows me as we had chatted via private messages and chats and phone before we met in person.
:cheer:
I can tell you that there was a lot of flirting on her behalf and a lot of touching and playing around too...so I don't know she also told me that she already feels like she knows me as we had chatted via private messages and chats and phone before we met in person.
:cheer:
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I'm so sick of people always advising to go see other people when they are perfectly happy pursuing someone they actually like. It seems to be the universal answer on these forums 95% of the time "next her, find someone else!"
The amount of prospects isnt an issue. If I like girl A I am going to go for girl A, and if there is a few problems along the way I'll deal with them. If you always quit as soon as there is any hiccup in your plans than I assume you'll always remain single because no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect.
Maybe this is why we keep getting "field reports" from the same people over and over. You'd think if they were actually good they would've found someone they like by now.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My friend is 15 and well she's told me she has a crush on me since we met 3 months ago (she told me she was 18), but im not sure if this is right, im 21. Anyways is it wrong to be friends with her or should I just blow her off? what do u guys think.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
If you're 21, 15 is way too young.
Go for whatever you want in life.
**** it won't land you in jail.
From a biological perspective, once a girl can reproduce she can reproduce.
But 14 year old girls are way too immature now. And their parents will kill you and you'll end up in jail.
19 year old girls are mostly immature too.
But why Mahon do you feel like a perv? Because you are worried what others think.
First off remember this phrase "I am Mahon, if there is something I want I go for it. I don't need anybodies permission to go for what I want, I don't need their approval or validation"
We coddle the youth of this country way too much. That's why we grow up to be pussies with problems.
I'll fully admit I was spoiled. I suffer from some of the consequences to this day. In the form of being unsure of myself at times.
My parents are great. I love em. They made things easy on me though. I am a wimp by default now. It has taken work, alot of work the past few years to get past that.
**** it won't land you in jail.
From a biological perspective, once a girl can reproduce she can reproduce.
But 14 year old girls are way too immature now. And their parents will kill you and you'll end up in jail.
19 year old girls are mostly immature too.
But why Mahon do you feel like a perv? Because you are worried what others think.
First off remember this phrase "I am Mahon, if there is something I want I go for it. I don't need anybodies permission to go for what I want, I don't need their approval or validation"
We coddle the youth of this country way too much. That's why we grow up to be pussies with problems.
I'll fully admit I was spoiled. I suffer from some of the consequences to this day. In the form of being unsure of myself at times.
My parents are great. I love em. They made things easy on me though. I am a wimp by default now. It has taken work, alot of work the past few years to get past that.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Very, very true!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Black_Italian
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19 is fine man stop worrying. Im 19 and i slept with a 28 year old guy last week............
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Girls who are 19 to 21 are usually at their peak in terms of body development... theres all that nice baby fat and very little cellulose...
They aren't lacking in sexual experience these days..
I wouldnt consider myself a perv for going after young chick... in the golden days, men of distinction often married women in their 19s or 20s... some even younger...
They aren't lacking in sexual experience these days..
I wouldnt consider myself a perv for going after young chick... in the golden days, men of distinction often married women in their 19s or 20s... some even younger...
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Read my whole damn statment. Did i say next her? NO.
But if a 28 yr old guy's only option is a 19yr old girl that takes interest in him he should probably be thinking about that.
drixsa
Master Don Juan
Well your are on the wrong board then, homo.
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I was joking........Bus seriously if when im 28 i can pickup a 19 year old id do it in a hear beat...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.