Can't remember if this has been discussed or not, but I was thinking about this today.
Sometimes when dealing with women, there isn't a clear course of action.
Maybe she throws a sh!t test at you, and you aren't quite sure how to react.
When in doubt.....DO NOTHING
Agree or disagree?
Actually, what made me curious about this is that I kinda had plans with this chick tonight. Nothing set in stone, but she's actually the one who brought it up a couple of times so I just assumed that it was a go.
I was busy at work today and i wanted to figure out what was going on tonight, so I texted her asking if she was coming by later. She said she wasn't sure, she was trying to finish up a few things and asked what my plans were. Told her I was just seeing if I needed to make other plans, and that I would talk to her later (assuming she would take it as we're both gonna do our own thing). Maybe if I would have said it the right way at THAT point she might have taken it as "it's either yes or no", but instead she replies "Go ahead and make plans and I will call you if I'm able to meet up with you, will this work?"
I could smell either a sh!t test or possibly me being put on a back burner. Probably the latter. Actually, probably both. No matter what it was though, if I would have agreed to those terms it would have been a WEAK move.
When we talked about getting together it was implied that she would be staying the night, so what could she have to "finish up" before she knows whether or not she can make it? It would have been a late night anyway.....
If I responded "Sure, no problem" that would imply that I would be waiting for her. If I responded "No, sounds like you're busy, let's get together some other time" it might come off as a little pissy. I was leaning toward the "No" response, but I wasn't sure which way to take it and I wasn't going to put any more effort into the decision, so I just didn't respond. I made the attempt, ball's in her court, she knows how to get ahold of me.
Just thinking back in the past this method of dealing with an uncertain situation has worked well for me. Basically a variation of "walking away". If a chick gets pissy about something and I don't want to deal with it, I just stop returning calls. And when I do respond in this way the results for me are pretty much always positive.
It's easy to look at from a third person POV when it's a woman throwing a fit or something of that nature, but when it's THIS kind of situation sometimes it's hard to spot and address when she's trying to control the situation and you don't want to be a puppy dog, but at the same time you don't want to make it look like she has pissed you off or anything.
I think with women, 95% of the time inaction is more powerful than any action. It allows you to retain control. It plants seed of doubt. A woman's mind can be her own worst enemy when she knows she doesn't have control and is uncertain as to what YOU are thinking.
What do you think?
Sometimes when dealing with women, there isn't a clear course of action.
Maybe she throws a sh!t test at you, and you aren't quite sure how to react.
When in doubt.....DO NOTHING
Agree or disagree?
Actually, what made me curious about this is that I kinda had plans with this chick tonight. Nothing set in stone, but she's actually the one who brought it up a couple of times so I just assumed that it was a go.
I was busy at work today and i wanted to figure out what was going on tonight, so I texted her asking if she was coming by later. She said she wasn't sure, she was trying to finish up a few things and asked what my plans were. Told her I was just seeing if I needed to make other plans, and that I would talk to her later (assuming she would take it as we're both gonna do our own thing). Maybe if I would have said it the right way at THAT point she might have taken it as "it's either yes or no", but instead she replies "Go ahead and make plans and I will call you if I'm able to meet up with you, will this work?"
I could smell either a sh!t test or possibly me being put on a back burner. Probably the latter. Actually, probably both. No matter what it was though, if I would have agreed to those terms it would have been a WEAK move.
When we talked about getting together it was implied that she would be staying the night, so what could she have to "finish up" before she knows whether or not she can make it? It would have been a late night anyway.....
If I responded "Sure, no problem" that would imply that I would be waiting for her. If I responded "No, sounds like you're busy, let's get together some other time" it might come off as a little pissy. I was leaning toward the "No" response, but I wasn't sure which way to take it and I wasn't going to put any more effort into the decision, so I just didn't respond. I made the attempt, ball's in her court, she knows how to get ahold of me.
Just thinking back in the past this method of dealing with an uncertain situation has worked well for me. Basically a variation of "walking away". If a chick gets pissy about something and I don't want to deal with it, I just stop returning calls. And when I do respond in this way the results for me are pretty much always positive.
It's easy to look at from a third person POV when it's a woman throwing a fit or something of that nature, but when it's THIS kind of situation sometimes it's hard to spot and address when she's trying to control the situation and you don't want to be a puppy dog, but at the same time you don't want to make it look like she has pissed you off or anything.
I think with women, 95% of the time inaction is more powerful than any action. It allows you to retain control. It plants seed of doubt. A woman's mind can be her own worst enemy when she knows she doesn't have control and is uncertain as to what YOU are thinking.
What do you think?