When I was younger I was told "people just don't like you" by "friends"

[GetFit66]

So before I go on, obviously I'm talking about this because it still bothers me today. I know it's a bit irrational, I just want to see what you guys think, or have told or been told similar things.

When I was younger "friends" would tell me this, these would be guys I hung out with often and had good relationships with. They tended to be kids who were not really cool but tried really hard to be cool, ie they had cool acquaintances. They also tended to be a bit assholish /back stabbers in the eyes of a few.

I was always a quiet person, moved around alot, changed schools, unless people got to know me, I was a bit of a nerd wangster and not in the best of shape so obviously none of the cool, or popular tried to know me, nor did the normal crowd for the most part, sometimes the normal crowd did try but I always felt awkward compared to them so nothing happened. I was also quiet which was a death sentence considering I wasn't good looking or funny. So I don't/didn't really see why my "friends" would tell me "people just don't like you" I would ask "why, how come, that makes no sense". They would reply "dude idfk your just one of those people that are not liked".

I've become talkative since they and I've made friends and acquaintance but still haven't been part of crowd/group and those feelings still linger.

Help so suave . Help.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Closed off, unattractive, non-funny people are not liked because they don't have any value. That's why you weren't liked you were younger. Why would they? What good did it do them? It's what humans do, even your friends you chose because of what they offer YOU. Maybe they're funny, or share similar interests to you, or nice.

If you still get similar feelings then you need to raise your value. Offer more, be a better person. Simple as that.

 

[cola]

Doesn't mean anything. I had a chick tell me the same thing a year or two ago.
A few months later she was in my bed with nothing but my T-Shirt and 2 of my fingers in her butt..

 

[RangerMIke]

Men are by nature competitive, so yes... men to dis-like other men that are different.

Women do not dis-like men they are not attracted too unless that man does something to bother her. If you are a quite keep to yourself type of person, that is unattractive to women, then you are just invisible to her.

If a woman ever says she does not like you, or hates you.... know that you can turn this around, if you are otherwise attractive, because this means you are relevant.

 

[Tictac]

So before I go on, obviously I'm talking about this because it still bothers me today. I know it's a bit irrational, I just want to see what you guys think, or have told or been told similar things.

When I was younger "friends" would tell me this, these would be guys I hung out with often and had good relationships with. They tended to be kids who were not really cool but tried really hard to be cool, ie they had cool acquaintances. They also tended to be a bit assholish /back stabbers in the eyes of a few.

I was always a quiet person, moved around alot, changed schools, unless people got to know me, I was a bit of a nerd wangster and not in the best of shape so obviously none of the cool, or popular tried to know me, nor did the normal crowd for the most part, sometimes the normal crowd did try but I always felt awkward compared to them so nothing happened. I was also quiet which was a death sentence considering I wasn't good looking or funny. So I don't/didn't really see why my "friends" would tell me "people just don't like you" I would ask "why, how come, that makes no sense". They would reply "dude idfk your just one of those people that are not liked".

I've become talkative since they and I've made friends and acquaintance but still haven't been part of crowd/group and those feelings still linger.

Help so suave . Help.

It's not what happened or what was said then or now that you allow to affect you. The events and words had and have no meaning either then or now.

It is your beliefs about those words and events that matter. Your beliefs are inside you. And that means you can change and dismiss them.

 

[marmel75]

I guess the pertinent question is, do you believe that is true?

 

[GetFit66]

I don't think it's true, it's equal to believing in witchcraft for me but the feelings and thoughts of "people just don't like you" come back to me when I'm feeling really down. Times when you question the unknown and think what if it is true, what if witchcraft is real.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I don't think it's true, it's equal to believing in witchcraft for me but the feelings and thoughts of "people just don't like you" come back to me when I'm feeling really down. Times when you question the unknown and think what if it is true, what if witchcraft is real.

Voodoo and witchcraft and politics IS real, lol. It's just how things affect your mind and what you see. Sometimes witchcraft or voodoo can be group politics working against you. The group may have been told how to perceive you, and it effects your energy and view to others.

 

[zinc4]

Doesn't matter if anyone likes you. Don't think in those terms. Only think about what you want...money, women and health.

Most friends are phony anyways.

Do what you want when you want and your aura will start to change and people will view you differently. Also...help others who.need or dederve help...promotes positive energy.

But dont be scared of not being liked....if you want to act aloof or to yourself then do it. Make no.apologies for who you are to anyone. They can go jump off a cliff if they don't like it.