I really been going a little down hill lately after this break up. I really need to get back in gear. I was doing stronglifts 5x5. My job took a downward spiral an I stopped I was also on a very strict diet turkey bacon low fat but kind of gave it up when I met this girl. So I think I will visit this site everyday an get my career back on track and work out at least 4 times a week also I need some education so I will try some school again reading every week and lastly I need good fvuckin karma so I might spend weekends volunteering I hope to change to something better these kids can see my 3rd child is coming anymore ideas for self improvement I welcome thanks
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
when i say self improvement...
- Thread starter bigwuz
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backseatjuan
Banned
Where you work?
backseatjuan
Banned
Can you open up your own business and work for your self?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.