"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hi, im new here...

anyway, i need some advice. im pretty good at starting up good conversations with pretty much anyone, but then i just stop. i run out of stuff to say, and then i feel as if im just giving off pure "boring!". so what do you guys do you minimise this. or am i just a boring idiot? lol.

not to mention this is really a problem on aim and in phone conversations... but i try to keep talking on the phone to a minimum (probably becasue of this).

i really appriciate any answers/ideas/help.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I really like teasing so i look at the targets cloths or stuff and make a cool joke about it, the target goes like "you are so mean" and i say "You are much more cute when you are angry" and hug her. works like magic.
 
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sometimes silence is good, but you need to make sure you give off the aura that you are comfortable with the silence, you are not thinking about what to say next, so that it is up to HER to spark something.

it works great!

and of course, if the other person doesn't say something after the silence then they probably are not interested, or something. There is no point continueing conversations with people on their bad days or if they are uninterested.
 
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The best thing is to pick up on what they're saying and transform it into a slight payout.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Infraction said:
I really like teasing so i look at the targets cloths or stuff and make a cool joke about it, the target goes like "you are so mean" and i say "You are much more cute when you are angry" and hug her. works like magic.
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Damnit I needed this line last week. My fav 6 has very obvious buttons I press all the time. She instantly goes into play fighting and it's hilarious. My kino with her is already at the high level even though she's taken. Man, that would have been perfect though. Ah well, to the future!!
 
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Just because she's taken doesn't mean she might not go with you ;) Try pushing it a little....
 
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