What do you guys interpret this to mean? Are they trying to show their worth to you or not even thinking you are a potential lay? A friend I ended up doing a while back said she always told me sex stories about herself to turn me on while we were at work. Do you believe this to be true in most situations?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When girls talk about thier sex lives in front of you
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I have had women tell me about their birth control status on first dates. Usually, they are mentioning how they are not on it. I dunno how they work it into the convo, 'cuz I sure never ask, but it happens. So, I take that to mean they are thinking about sex, and just letting me know in advance.
MooseGod
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They'll usually only talk about their sex lives if they're comfortable around you--which means your foot's in the door.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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I never had a girl tell me sex stories about her past. Unless, I asked them about it.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
In the door of the friend zone.MooseGod said:They'll usually only talk about their sex lives if they're comfortable around you--which means your foot's in the door.
Women shouldn't be too comfortable with you. They'll end up telling you a whole bunch of nonsense which you don't require.
Acceptable sex talk falls under, how she likes it done to her and what style she likes best. However once names are mentioned, then she isn't recalling the act of sex but the person she had sex with. Which then means she is still hung up about the other guy and you should next her before you both go shopping for her K-Y Jelly.
That's what I always thought too. This girl actually DID mention names though, so I assumed I have no chance with her, until she asked to come over and we did it. After she told me that she was trying to get me horny by telling me those stories. Is this girl just an exception to the rule?ZenGodMod said:In the door of the friend zone.
Women shouldn't be too comfortable with you. They'll end up telling you a whole bunch of nonsense which you don't require.
Acceptable sex talk falls under, how she likes it done to her and what style she likes best. However once names are mentioned, then she isn't recalling the act of sex but the person she had sex with. Which then means she is still hung up about the other guy and you should next her before you both go shopping for her K-Y Jelly.
DonGorgon
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Usually means she like you and is very comfortable or she is just a big ho/slut an does not care...
If a girl is personally telling you about her sex life, it probably means that you are in the friends zone. If she mainly talking to her female friends about her sex life and you happen to be in the clique, then she might be trying to impress you, but you need to look for other IOIs.
Funny, this very topic just came up with me today.
Girl I've had sex with in the past e-mailed me today. We went back and forth on a few stupid things, then she tells me she's getting a brazilian wax.
I asked her to show me the end product and she said no. Then I told her to let me know when she dumps her boyfriend and she said maybe.
I think it's a combination of some level of attraction (only girls I've had sex with ever do this with me) and attention wh-ring.
All in all, doesn't mean much, but I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing.
Girl I've had sex with in the past e-mailed me today. We went back and forth on a few stupid things, then she tells me she's getting a brazilian wax.
I asked her to show me the end product and she said no. Then I told her to let me know when she dumps her boyfriend and she said maybe.
I think it's a combination of some level of attraction (only girls I've had sex with ever do this with me) and attention wh-ring.
All in all, doesn't mean much, but I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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This is true. If SHE brings up the topic it´s because there´s a purpose there.MooseGod said:They'll usually only talk about their sex lives if they're comfortable around you--which means your foot's in the door.
There are no Rules! Rules would mean everything has a set outcome. There are only probabilities.SamMalone said:That's what I always thought too. This girl actually DID mention names though, so I assumed I have no chance with her, until she asked to come over and we did it. After she told me that she was trying to get me horny by telling me those stories. Is this girl just an exception to the rule?