"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When Girls See your Music Library and go WTF

AlexKaiser

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So I jam to songs by Aqua, Audiomachine, Within Temptation, Slipknot, ENT!TY, Evanescence, Skrillex, Paramore, Flyleaf. Birdy and Naglfar. Not exclusively, but if you put my iPod on shuffle you're sure to hear these pop up. From the get go, I listened to whatever the hell I wanted to because it sounded good. If I wanted to jam to Carmina Burana or Clint Mansell's Lux Aeterna one moment, to Eminem and or LMFAO the other, I did.

But now, I have more people, more girls, asking me what kind of music I listen to, and I'm always stumped on this question or give a vague response. I even pretended my iPod was dead when I was taking a girl out for a ride just because I didn't have enough rap or country music on it and didn't want to be caught having Indie Pop and symphonic instrumentals pouring out my speakers and have to answer "The hell are you listening to?".

It is a trait of the DJ to be confident. Birdy, Paramore and Flyleaf make some god damn good songs. However I can't help but feel like letting tons of soft feminine songs pour through my speakers while a girl's with me will give the wrong idea, makes me nervous, self-conscious. I don't want to lose a lay because a girl doesn't like my music taste.

Do I just hide all of my "gay/girly" and femmy music on a playlist or a different device, or just not give a crap and just listen to whatever the hell I wanted to, like I've been?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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derricklerrick

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Men who do more gay things frequently get away with it so if the girl is really attracted to you she wouldn't mind you listening to what you believe is feminine music. Personally I would stop worrying about what others think and go on with listening to the music.

I used to think blasting rap songs in the background when talking to friends/girls would make them think I was cool before but no one really cared.
 

Desdinova

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Who the hell cares? When a woman asks you what I listen to, I tell her "everything". And it really is everything. I'll listen to some of that new pop 5hit, 60s beatnik music, death metal, piano instrumentals, punk, experimental, etc. I'm all over the map.

There's also nothing wrong with setting aside music for fvcking. Whenever you ask a woman who's ready to fvck what she wants to listen to, she'll respond with "anything you want". However, that doesn't mean you throw on a Napalm Death album. Pick something she won't hate having sex to.
 

SmooveMooves

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Do I just hide all of my "gay/girly" and femmy music on a playlist or a different device, or just not give a crap and just listen to whatever the hell I wanted to, like I've been?
You know what to do. Hide that shít. A bunch of guys are going to hop on here and tell you "A real DJ doesn't care be DJ enough it won't matter." But that's not the way the real world works. Think of another "gay" hobby. Say you collect action figurines. Would you have them on display when a woman was coming over? No. You'd toss them in a box so she wouldn't think you were some giant weirdo.

This doesn't mean you have to change your music taste. There is an app called Pandora. When you're with women goto Pandora and choose a curated playlist. It will play generic billboard songs that "everyone" listens to. You can't go wrong. When asked about your music taste say you listen to "everything." List a few genres.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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