"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When girls play hard to get
- Thread starter Crissco
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
You play harder to get. Seems like it used to be if two people liked each other, they clicked w/o the games. By playing harder to get I do not mean totally ignore her, I mean turn about is fair play... You would be foolish to turn her advances down like 5 times in a row. Maybe once ever three or fours times. If she likes you well enough, she will stop with the games.Crissco said:
There is the crowd that would say No games period!! I tend to agree a lot with this crowd. I like the 3 strike rule personally, and there are some that say two.. I will give her a fair chance to come correct and if by 3 times she is making no effort, then it is next! Now if she comes back after that, she is placed on the third string team and good enough only for a hit.
Scars
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muddy_waters87
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NC = No Contact?Scars said:
What's the deal here?
Anywho...I'm in a similar situation right now. I have gotten a whole crapload of signals from this girl, and when I asked her out she said "maybe, if I'm not busy." I think she is playing hard to get to be honest, but it could be that she lost all interest. Whatever, either way, I need some advice with this as well.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You can try what I did with my last ex when I was asking her out and kept getting the same crap. One night, I invited her to come to a party, and after she sent me a txt saying she's at some show, "maybe later if blah blah", my reply was: "Get your arse here, NOW." She did as I told, was very submissive that night and we hooked up.muddy_waters87 said:
Essentially, they're like little girls playing & waiting for you the man to put the foot down and say enough is enough.
It only works if you KNOW for sure she's interested though.
exactlyScars said:
women need to upgrade their software if they want a real modern man
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H7a7EqrHC3k
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Maxtro
Master Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Naughty Ninja
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I've met plenty of women who had a ton on their plate, (school-work, job, etc) and still would bend over backwards to make time for some bad-boy type. Even when they had no business spending hours driving across state or partying, if they like you enough, their feelings can and probably will override common sense. Sounds to me like "too much hw, too busy" is a convenient excuse, at least if she uses it repeatedly. Not in all cases of course, there are women who bury themselves in work, but the typical girl you meet will make time for you if she is interested enough IMHO.Maxtro said:
Hidden-Hand
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:woo:joe henny said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.