Bonafide
Senior Don Juan
what do you do? lol :crackup: but seriously...is there any game to this or is it a simple thank you... like for example if they compliment you on your looks, what do you say in response
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When females compliment you...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
KontrollerX
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I like to default to cliche'd oldies but goodies for this type of thing...
Chick: You're awesome.
KX: I know.
Chick: *giggles while panties get soaked*
Chick: You're awesome.
KX: I know.
Chick: *giggles while panties get soaked*
MotownMack
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It depends on the chick.
I think there is time and place for game, but sometimes good old fashion manners is the way to go. It depends on how long I've know her, if the compliment is sincere, etc. But you can still add a joke, and/or compliment in her back.
Physical compliments (you can use this one for just about any physical compliment):
HB: You have the most beautiful blue eyes. (I get this one a lot)
Me: Aww, how sweet, thank you. We'd have some good looking children, huh?
(and maybe I'll add) Wanna get started? (and maybe, if you're in a restaurant or bar, pretending to motion to waiter) Check please!
Personality compliments:
HB: You're such a sweetheart.
Me: (smile) Thanks, just don't tell anyone, you'll ruin my reputation.
HB: You're so funny!
Me: Oh gee thanks, clowns are funny too. Are you calling me a clown? Fine, then you're the bearded lady.
Remember-this is kind of an important phase. If she's complimenting you, you're on your away, you're already winning her over. Don't screw it up by being too ****y.
I think there is time and place for game, but sometimes good old fashion manners is the way to go. It depends on how long I've know her, if the compliment is sincere, etc. But you can still add a joke, and/or compliment in her back.
Physical compliments (you can use this one for just about any physical compliment):
HB: You have the most beautiful blue eyes. (I get this one a lot)
Me: Aww, how sweet, thank you. We'd have some good looking children, huh?
(and maybe I'll add) Wanna get started? (and maybe, if you're in a restaurant or bar, pretending to motion to waiter) Check please!
Personality compliments:
HB: You're such a sweetheart.
Me: (smile) Thanks, just don't tell anyone, you'll ruin my reputation.
HB: You're so funny!
Me: Oh gee thanks, clowns are funny too. Are you calling me a clown? Fine, then you're the bearded lady.
Remember-this is kind of an important phase. If she's complimenting you, you're on your away, you're already winning her over. Don't screw it up by being too ****y.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
It totally depends on the type of compliment.....I use the logic of the method of that first poster there a lot...
Rebound Material
Master Don Juan
HER: Well, Ive always thought you looked hot.
ME: STOP LEADING ME ON! I KNOW THAT YOUR JUST OUT THERE TO BREAK MY HEART!
HER: No, im just saying-
ME: NO! YOU FCUKING WH0RE! I KNOW THAT YOU'RE JUST TRYING TO LEAD ME ON! YOU STUPID FCUKING HO ASS B!TCH!
j/k
I just kinda smile or something when I get complimented.
ME: STOP LEADING ME ON! I KNOW THAT YOUR JUST OUT THERE TO BREAK MY HEART!
HER: No, im just saying-
ME: NO! YOU FCUKING WH0RE! I KNOW THAT YOU'RE JUST TRYING TO LEAD ME ON! YOU STUPID FCUKING HO ASS B!TCH!
j/k
I just kinda smile or something when I get complimented.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
Her: I love your style
Me: thanks I like your lips
(proceed to make out) haha
Her: I like you shirt it looks good on you
Me: whoa i just met you and you already want to take my shirt off(smiling)
Just a few examples
Me: thanks I like your lips
(proceed to make out) haha
Her: I like you shirt it looks good on you
Me: whoa i just met you and you already want to take my shirt off(smiling)
Just a few examples
That's a cool answer, I like it. But what I wanted to touch on is that, sometimes, these aren't compliments.
I was with some folks a few weeks ago and I noticed this one girl in the group had a habit of stating her itinerary just about every time she was planning something with someone. Along the lines of, "Hey, we should go to that concert! Let's see, Saturday, I'm going shopping, and then visiting my aunt, so after that we could hook up..."
So after a couple of those, I pointed out that's what she does, in a funny way. Everyone laughed. She said, "You're so funny!", which at the moment I thought was not a bad thing.
But it struck me odd at the time. It was just the way she said it. Anyway, that's what kept it on my mind and I thought about it, and I think it was her way of saying, "You're such an a$$hole." Of course, it just reflects on her inability to laugh at herself.
Come to think of it, I've heard variations of that one before. "You're TOO funny!" is another one. I don't think that's a compliment. I think it's also woman-speak.
If they're laughing and have big grins and leaning forward and touching your arm when they say that, then it's probably a compliment. You have to watch the body language to decipher it.