"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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when do you ask

surface1030

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okay after getting her digits and going out on a couple dates, having her wanting you the most, this doesn't mean that you guys are actually girlfriend/boyfriend right? Because yo're just going out and having fun together. when is it when a dj can ask her to be his girlfriend? cause i remember i went out with this chick long time ago and i never asked her to be my girlfriend. and her friend asked me, are you guys going out? i said no and the girl i was seeing was like, WHAT? lol whatever, stupid girls.

but anyways, ^^^
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NRM

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DJs don't ask girls to be their girlfriends. Afterall, you're attracting, they are doing the pursuing. All you do is kiss her, make all the right moves, and before long, she'll consider herself a slut if she doesn't give you the nametag.

Be a man. The first kiss should be before the relationship starts. The only way to see if a woman is really interested is to let her ask you out.
 

Wiesman44

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Dude, you dont ask her to be your g/f. Its just assumed after going out for a while. You can talk about it i suppose, like whats our status, but generally, i've never had to do that
 

Porky

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You and this girl were going out. If people ask me if I'm "going out with" so and so, I either say no, or "we're dating."

All in all I much prefer to date girls than be official with them.
 

Heizen

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Realize this:

The whole attitude that you are conveying when you are a DJ is that you dont need a GF, and things can be very casual. To ask her to be your GF shows a different kind of personality, probably different then the one that she was originally attracted to.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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