"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When did you realize that you're OLD

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hithard

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Ok guys.... 35th birthday coming up feeling older and like this is the home stretch to have a good time while I still have the last lingering youth in my body.
Going through the 'reflection of my life' stage at the moment. And how the past decade has just seemed like a blur. Probably due to listening to some old music and realizing that it is now ten (or more) years old.

One thing is I have had a lot of responsibility thrust on me both business and personal wise, that I have lost touch with whatever dream I had before of what I wanted out of life. Don't get me wrong life is pretty good but it feels as if I'm not living it to the fullest, or missing a piece of the puzzle.
There is so much I want to do, but I currently feel like I'm using the 'too many responsibilities' excuse to hold me back (don't get me wrong I do have a lot). I just don't want to get to 46 and look back on another decade of blur.

Any advice from the older guys on what they would do if the could live 35 over?
 

Demodulate

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I still mentally feel and look pretty young, but my body begs to differ.. after getting a microdiscectomy following a severely herniated disk acquired while training muay thai, I relaized.. my body could no longer keep up..

my back is a constant struggle now, keeps me in check, and definitely makes me feel physically old.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear HitHard,
Looking back,i can honestly say I hit my peak,certainly sexually and Work wise at 37.....I did a silly thing at 39 I got married,under duress,I was living with a lovely Girl,slipped up on Birth Control,and had a lovely daughter....Got quite attached to this kid,who is now a gender equity Officer in a big Government Department,whatever that means,probably should have been strangled at birth (Smile)...So Girlfriend disappears,goes back to Mother,comes back without Kid,but complete with Ultimatum,marry or else!!!eventually I capitulated,but at least I wrung a Pre Nuptial out of Her!!!...On reflection,if I had a rewind button I would have gone my own way,for this lovely daughter...Yeah it was better for her,but none the less that is what I would do....HitHard,you are just coming into your own,believe me it gets better as you get older....just eat well,exercise and do your Kegals.
 

zekko

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Any advice from the older guys on what they would do if the could live 35 over?
Don't wait. If there's something you want to accomplish, do it now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sodbuster

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Take some time off and do the things you want to do. You can die behind a desk later....but are you going mountain climbing at age 70?
 

vatoloco

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When this 21-yr old cutey I took out told me she also liked "old school" stuff like "No Doubt." :D
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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I'll be 32 in a couple of months and things are just getting good. I feel like I've finally become "a man". Taking control of my life, my career and leaving behind all the insecurities and petty things that don't matter and replacing them with wisdom, experience and an overall well balanced mental outlook. Life is only getting better!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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