Tuttleycool
Don Juan
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- Jul 21, 2016
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When did you reach your threshold and cut that person out of your life?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Steady Eddie
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 2, 2015
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At 30 I dropped everyone I knew. We had long past the point where either had a use for the other(s).
It was a good move and I wish I had done it sooner.
It was a good move and I wish I had done it sooner.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Sometimes you have to... And it's not always hard feelings. Some old friends you can see like going to church like a "CME" Christian... Christmas, Mothersday and Easter. That's the way it is for very many.
Desdinova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2004
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Finding this place caused me to lower my threshold for bull5hit. I cut one long-time friend out of my life after they pulled a really stupid stunt on me. Before I'd just stay angry for a bit and then apply "forgive and forget". I no longer forgive and forget unless they actually admit that they fvcked up and how they fvcked up. Most people will not admit to it, but a few will. Those are the people I will keep in my life because they're willing to actually make things better instead of covering up their mistakes.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Malcontent
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 15, 2014
- Messages
- 206
- Reaction score
- 51
I give everybody 2 chances. I realized that if someone betrays me twice, it's probably a pattern. I also realize that I have to be efficient with my time and taking the time to put up with games/BS is a waste of my life. Toxic/flakey/unreliable/untrustworthy people must be discarded promptly.
This right here! Solid advice!!
No games, no bullchit... fool me once then shame on you.. fool me twice and I will bury you!
a mistake is one thing, mistakes everyone does, but flat out betrayal? there is no excuse for such thing, when someone knows what he will or did will make you feel bad/annoyed that means you are not important to that person, so you drop that person, there is no point to it
you normally lose friends along the life for change on things you do and belive and that is normal, but keep around people with bad character or will do things who will annoy you, you better start to make yourself busy with better things
PantyWhisperer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 21, 2016
- Messages
- 536
- Reaction score
- 350
I'm nexting people in general a lot better than I did when I was younger. Male, female - doesn't matter. Life is short and I hate wasting time with people who only take and add no value back to my life. It's adios for me these days, whereas when I was younger I would tolerate such parasites for long periods of time. I'd rather be alone than have people mooch off me in some way.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
They can't even admit it, make up for the damages caused.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
There's also the envious kind. I can usually sense envy coming from anyone even family members. The kind of people who immediately change topics to themselves whenever someone else had a good news to share.
Someone or You: "Yay! I just got a job at XYZ company"
Normal people: "Grats!"
Envious people: "When I got accepted at ABC..."
Someone or You: "Yay! I just got a job at XYZ company"
Normal people: "Grats!"
Envious people: "When I got accepted at ABC..."