Tuttleycool
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 21, 2016
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When did you reach your threshold and cut that person out of your life?
- Thread starter Tuttleycool
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Steady Eddie
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 2, 2015
- Messages
- 125
- Reaction score
- 47
At 30 I dropped everyone I knew. We had long past the point where either had a use for the other(s).
It was a good move and I wish I had done it sooner.
It was a good move and I wish I had done it sooner.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Sometimes you have to... And it's not always hard feelings. Some old friends you can see like going to church like a "CME" Christian... Christmas, Mothersday and Easter. That's the way it is for very many.
Desdinova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2004
- Messages
- 11,680
- Reaction score
- 4,877
Finding this place caused me to lower my threshold for bull5hit. I cut one long-time friend out of my life after they pulled a really stupid stunt on me. Before I'd just stay angry for a bit and then apply "forgive and forget". I no longer forgive and forget unless they actually admit that they fvcked up and how they fvcked up. Most people will not admit to it, but a few will. Those are the people I will keep in my life because they're willing to actually make things better instead of covering up their mistakes.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Malcontent
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 15, 2014
- Messages
- 206
- Reaction score
- 51
I give everybody 2 chances. I realized that if someone betrays me twice, it's probably a pattern. I also realize that I have to be efficient with my time and taking the time to put up with games/BS is a waste of my life. Toxic/flakey/unreliable/untrustworthy people must be discarded promptly.
This right here! Solid advice!!
No games, no bullchit... fool me once then shame on you.. fool me twice and I will bury you!
a mistake is one thing, mistakes everyone does, but flat out betrayal? there is no excuse for such thing, when someone knows what he will or did will make you feel bad/annoyed that means you are not important to that person, so you drop that person, there is no point to it
you normally lose friends along the life for change on things you do and belive and that is normal, but keep around people with bad character or will do things who will annoy you, you better start to make yourself busy with better things
PantyWhisperer
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 21, 2016
- Messages
- 536
- Reaction score
- 350
I'm nexting people in general a lot better than I did when I was younger. Male, female - doesn't matter. Life is short and I hate wasting time with people who only take and add no value back to my life. It's adios for me these days, whereas when I was younger I would tolerate such parasites for long periods of time. I'd rather be alone than have people mooch off me in some way.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
They can't even admit it, make up for the damages caused.
sharkbeat
Master Don Juan
There's also the envious kind. I can usually sense envy coming from anyone even family members. The kind of people who immediately change topics to themselves whenever someone else had a good news to share.
Someone or You: "Yay! I just got a job at XYZ company"
Normal people: "Grats!"
Envious people: "When I got accepted at ABC..."
Someone or You: "Yay! I just got a job at XYZ company"
Normal people: "Grats!"
Envious people: "When I got accepted at ABC..."