oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
How you guys deal
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
When chicks talk about ex bf/bf's?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
General rule: Nip it in the bud the first time it happens.
Make a face like she just dropped a big fart and it stinks bad.
Lean away from her and wave your hand as though to fan away the stench and say "I don't want to talk about your exes."
Do it in the same tone you would as if you were telling someone "you stink" (ie. gross, ewww, yuck, etc.) She is essentially filling the air around you with "shyt". Treat her accordingly.
If she doesn't stop or tries again later you have to lay it on the line right then and there. (Or allow it to happen and become her emotional tampon.)
You: "Listen you seem great but it sounds like you are still hung up on your ex."
You: Eject and wait for her to stop you. If she doesn't, then you're better off anyway. She should apologize and get the hint from then on.
Make a face like she just dropped a big fart and it stinks bad.
Lean away from her and wave your hand as though to fan away the stench and say "I don't want to talk about your exes."
Do it in the same tone you would as if you were telling someone "you stink" (ie. gross, ewww, yuck, etc.) She is essentially filling the air around you with "shyt". Treat her accordingly.
If she doesn't stop or tries again later you have to lay it on the line right then and there. (Or allow it to happen and become her emotional tampon.)
You: "Listen you seem great but it sounds like you are still hung up on your ex."
You: Eject and wait for her to stop you. If she doesn't, then you're better off anyway. She should apologize and get the hint from then on.
jafyk
Master Don Juan
If you read the "The Book of Pook" you will learn that a chick talking about her bf is often an insight as to what is going on in that relationship. Listen to what or how she talks about him. If she's saying good things about him etc then she's not interested in you. If she's saying bad things about him then she's hinting at wanting you to rescue her.
Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Go.ddamn nothing annoys me more than that -- slick laid down some solid advice -- when will chicks understand nobody wants to hear about all of that?
Switch subjects. Say, "I'd rather talk about the present and exciting things going on right now", or "I'd really rather not talk about those things, let's talk about something fun between us instead". Draw her attention back to both of you and the present and exciting things for the future. Don't go down into her relationship past-tunnel with her, it will end with both of you depressed -- her re-living her past broken relationships, and you hearing way more info on things you never wanted to know anyways!
Trust me, no matter how inviting it seems, be very vague and general at the very MOST about past relationships and hearing anything of hers diverge, diverge!
If she refuses to stop blabbing about it, clearly she's got some **** she hasn't dealt with and you ought to find a chick more emotionally available!
my 2cents!
Switch subjects. Say, "I'd rather talk about the present and exciting things going on right now", or "I'd really rather not talk about those things, let's talk about something fun between us instead". Draw her attention back to both of you and the present and exciting things for the future. Don't go down into her relationship past-tunnel with her, it will end with both of you depressed -- her re-living her past broken relationships, and you hearing way more info on things you never wanted to know anyways!
Trust me, no matter how inviting it seems, be very vague and general at the very MOST about past relationships and hearing anything of hers diverge, diverge!
If she refuses to stop blabbing about it, clearly she's got some **** she hasn't dealt with and you ought to find a chick more emotionally available!
my 2cents!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
This chick mentioned about her ex while testing and she also texts telling me they are going to a party for new year eve. She also tells we were dating for a longtime and he always make me laugh!
This. I learned it the hard way with one chick who went brought her ex up in nearly every damn conversation. It took me longer than it should have to realize that she just wanted someone to listen to her whining and didn't have any real interest in me at all. Ah well, live and learn.Buddha_Mind said:
Then don't waste another minute on her.oneboy21 said:
Maximummax
Senior Don Juan
Next her
Dust 2 Dust
Master Don Juan
I don't bother with chicks who have boyfriends so as soon as she brought it up I'd move on and look for someone available.
According to Pook, the difference was between feelings and actions. If a girl talks about feelings, the girl is attached to the guy. If a girl talks about the boyfriend’s actions then you can take action.jafyk said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
This is what she said
"Yeah should be fun, we dated for years I see him a lot. He makes me laugh which is good"
"Yeah should be fun, we dated for years I see him a lot. He makes me laugh which is good"
I swing the conversation away from it and if they swing back to it more than once after that (I operate on a 2 strikes rule, not including the playful warning) I cut the outing short and bounce. If they want to talk about the ex that means they want you to be their tampon. They have gay friends for that.oneboy21 said:
jafyk
Master Don Juan
Well, she's not interested and seems happy with her relationship. Now you know not to waste your time. You move on.oneboy21 said:
So, in reference to the some of the above posters. At least if she starts talking about the boy friend and if the feelings she associates with him are good ones. I guess you can then move on. However, if they bad ones then (1) You know she needs a change (2) she will give you inside info on what he did that was bad and with this knowledge you can know how to go about getting her.