"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When chicks asks for advice/suggestion?

oneboy21

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This is when you don't know her much and you are interested in banging her.
how do you respond to this particular situation. Is it a Bait to respond and than they flake or play games from here. What are your suggestions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm not sure what you said. But I think I may know what you mean. When she asks for advice on guys I respond, "I'm not a girl. I couldn't tell you." Or "I'm not most guys, I can't tell you what he is doing." Telling her what she wants to hear is a good way to get friend zoned.
 

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My new policy is to stop giving advice to females. When was the last time a girl helped you with dating stuff? <Cricket, cricket lol>. Don't count on it. They want you to fail.

Giving her dating advice can put you in friendzone too. Don't be her free therapist. That's what her girlfriends, gay guy friends, and straight orbiter guy friends are for.

But to answer your question, Amw406 is correct. "I don't know. I don't really know this guy (or know him that well)" will suffice.

Then change the subject to something more fun and positive. If she won't change the subject, politely eject because you're busy and have bigger fish to fry.
 

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Let me rephrase it

Some times girls asks for advice on things like computer, buying a car or etc.
If you barely know a girl, how do you react to this situation?
 

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oneboy21 said:
Let me rephrase it

Some times girls asks for advice on things like computer, buying a car or etc.
If you barely know a girl, how do you react to this situation?
Now, let's assume a guy asked you the same thing.

Would you assume, after he asks, that he's gay and hitting on you?

So... where exactly are you assuming that a girl is attracted to you because she's saying things that end with a slight up-chord in her voice (a question)?

OP, if she was asking all this while taking off her top and also holding your balls with her mouth, then maybe I'd say she likes you.

Otherwise, I'd say she's asking about a computer or car.
 

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oneboy21 said:
Let me rephrase it

Some times girls asks for advice on things like computer, buying a car or etc.
If you barely know a girl, how do you react to this situation?
I'd react like she's a human being asking me for advice. If you want to flirt with her, then go ahead. But there's no need to treat every male-female interaction as some PUA game.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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