"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
when asked tell me what you think...about her looks
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When a woman asks you if she is attractive she is looking for reassurance not for an insult. Tell her she is beautiful, you can do it in a seductive way. Come in close, put your hand on her cheek, look into her eyes and say "you are beautiful". Say it with dominance. I can guarantee you she will smile and she will love it.
People think that just because an AFC compliments a woman on looks DJ's cant. It's not about that, an AFC compliments to try and win her over, he compliments out of supplication. If you do some of the things AFC's do but deliver them from a place of dominance it will drive her crazy.
So the idea is to not always be a stone cold bastard. You can tell a woman she is beautiful just do it from a place of dominance.
Nickbe's suggestion is good too, but its also all about how you say it.
I really think the DJ thing is very open to interpretation. You should learn to mold the teachings of others into your own style that fits your personality. Not only is your own personality important, but the girls' your talking to too. If she knows she hot and hears it all the time..then telling her shes beautiful doesn't set you apart from others...a playful neg-hit will. With a girl like that, Nickbe's way would only work after all her clothes are on your bedroom floor.
Like I said AFC's compliment out of supplication, DJ's compliment out of dominance.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Said non-chalantly, "You look as good as any other attractive woman."Anfz said:
Normally, I wouldn't recommend that. That question is usually more a sign of interest in you than it a sign of some bytch playing 'mindgames' with you. So it's better to reply with something more seductive rather than waste the opportunity with some 'neg hit' crap. Depends on context, of course, but most times I would say it's a chick who's into you and wants to know you're into her, too.
In this particular case I would definitely not recommend it. I know this Anfz guy in real life (hey bro!
) and lol, he is one seriously goodlooking mo'fo'. You would all wanna kick his azz for daring to have any 'girl problem'. A dismissive line like "meh, I've seen better" would be pretty crushing for the chick in this situation. Not a good play at all.Yeah, that's good. Anfz man, I bet this one's on myspace yeah? Don't answer her question over the net. Tell her you you need to see her in real life before you can answer it. Then when you do see her, do something like what this guy said. Just bring it up during the coffee, like: "so...anyway... to answer your question..."---> and then take it from there.
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"You look nice"Anfz said:
"Everyone has different taste but I like the way you look"
"That's very subjective, do you feel attractive?"
Let her know she passes without signing yourself into servitude.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
B4IFURU18?
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This is horrible advice.
She's asking because she really wants to know. It doesn't necessarily mean she's super insecure. Everyone is insecure in someway. She just values your opinion, probably likes you a lot, and wants to know what you like about her.
I would say something along the lines of (referring to a particular photo): "I really like how sexy that skirt/dress/shirt/shoes/socks/earrings/etc look on you."
DO NOT say: "You look really sexy in that skirt", that implies the skirt makes her sexy. You want to convey to her that SHE makes the skirt sexy.