She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Said non-chalantly, "You look as good as any other attractive woman."Anfz said:Hey guys whats the best thing to say when asked by a chick,so tell me what you think of my pics/me ? especially if she is real hot and gets heaps of attention as it is ? any ideas
Normally, I wouldn't recommend that. That question is usually more a sign of interest in you than it a sign of some bytch playing 'mindgames' with you. So it's better to reply with something more seductive rather than waste the opportunity with some 'neg hit' crap. Depends on context, of course, but most times I would say it's a chick who's into you and wants to know you're into her, too.SAy something like.... "you look great, but I've seen better"
Yeah, that's good. Anfz man, I bet this one's on myspace yeah? Don't answer her question over the net. Tell her you you need to see her in real life before you can answer it. Then when you do see her, do something like what this guy said. Just bring it up during the coffee, like: "so...anyway... to answer your question..."---> and then take it from there.When a woman asks you if she is attractive she is looking for reassurance not for an insult. Tell her she is beautiful, you can do it in a seductive way. Come in close, put your hand on her cheek, look into her eyes and say "you are beautiful". Say it with dominance. I can guarantee you she will smile and she will love it.
"You look nice"Anfz said:Hey guys whats the best thing to say when asked by a chick,so tell me what you think of my pics/me ? especially if she is real hot and gets heaps of attention as it is ? any ideas
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.