"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When 'Arrogance is a Big Turn-off'

Adam

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Hey guys. I don't usually post on these boards since I've come to realise most issues can be dealt with simply by applying the basic tenents of the Don Juan creed, but I've recently come accross a girl who's all but stumped me.

Some background for you all, she's got a very attractive face, a solid hb8 in my book and she seems to have a killer personality. I knew her very vaguely from my college which she left at the end of last year. We got talking at a party this year, I got her number and she came with me to laser quest (don't ask :whistle: ) this friday. Things seemed to go fairly well, no kiss close, but plenty of kino, teasing, IOIs; it was all going on.

Now onto the issue. While we were talking on friday she told me about how to her 'arrogance was a big turn-off', how there's this guy at her drama school who the other girls go mad for but how she doesn't give him the time of day since he's so 'up himself'. This hit a nerve for me because I use the old C&F as a staple of how I talk to girls. Here's the thing, I noticed she'd withdraw slightly when I'd text her things like 'try not to think about me too much' but she laps it up when I lay it on her in real life.

What I'm wondering is whether I should alter the way I communicate with her over digital means or just to carry on as I am, even if some of the ****iness acts as a digital conversation killer.

What do people think?

Cheers,

Adam


P.s: I'm aware that I am almost definately thinking about this a little too much. Guess I see this as a particular challenge of sorts..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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CaptainJ

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Haven't you learnt anything from your stay at sosuave? What women say they want and what they actually want are total opposites. Just because a girl says she doesn't like arrogant men, doesn't mean she doesn't secretly get wet at the sight of one of these bad boys.

Girls love men who are a bit arrogant, so don't worry about what she says, she's just do the 'I'm not like other girls' crap.
 

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There's a difference between "arrogance" and "****iness".


Cheers!
 

Adam

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CaptainJ said:
Girls love men who are a bit arrogant, so don't worry about what she says, she's just do the 'I'm not like other girls' crap.

This was my initial thought and if it were as clean cut as that I'd be happy doing my thing. The trouble is her coldness digitally, through texts and messages when I use C&F.
 

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I have learned that women who are turned off by a man who is sure of himself and shows it, are generally not women I want to be around anyway.

those are the womenw daddy issues, emotional issues, using men for validation issues, have to have a man suck up to them issues, expect you to kiss their feet beucase they have a pvssy issues and stuff liket hat.


a healthy woman is attracted to a man who is sure of himself. it's a turn on.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CaptainJ

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Adam said:
This was my initial thought and if it were as clean cut as that I'd be happy doing my thing. The trouble is her coldness digitally, through texts and messages when I use C&F.
Stop using texts and online messaging. Real men speak in person.
Texting just encourages men into the non-physical side of the relationship which makes real life and physical encounters awkward. Trust me, I've been there before, which is why I never use online messaging any more.
 
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