“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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When 'Arrogance is a Big Turn-off'

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Hey guys. I don't usually post on these boards since I've come to realise most issues can be dealt with simply by applying the basic tenents of the Don Juan creed, but I've recently come accross a girl who's all but stumped me.

Some background for you all, she's got a very attractive face, a solid hb8 in my book and she seems to have a killer personality. I knew her very vaguely from my college which she left at the end of last year. We got talking at a party this year, I got her number and she came with me to laser quest (don't ask :whistle: ) this friday. Things seemed to go fairly well, no kiss close, but plenty of kino, teasing, IOIs; it was all going on.

Now onto the issue. While we were talking on friday she told me about how to her 'arrogance was a big turn-off', how there's this guy at her drama school who the other girls go mad for but how she doesn't give him the time of day since he's so 'up himself'. This hit a nerve for me because I use the old C&F as a staple of how I talk to girls. Here's the thing, I noticed she'd withdraw slightly when I'd text her things like 'try not to think about me too much' but she laps it up when I lay it on her in real life.

What I'm wondering is whether I should alter the way I communicate with her over digital means or just to carry on as I am, even if some of the ****iness acts as a digital conversation killer.

What do people think?

Cheers,

Adam


P.s: I'm aware that I am almost definately thinking about this a little too much. Guess I see this as a particular challenge of sorts..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Haven't you learnt anything from your stay at sosuave? What women say they want and what they actually want are total opposites. Just because a girl says she doesn't like arrogant men, doesn't mean she doesn't secretly get wet at the sight of one of these bad boys.

Girls love men who are a bit arrogant, so don't worry about what she says, she's just do the 'I'm not like other girls' crap.
 

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There's a difference between "arrogance" and "****iness".


Cheers!
 

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CaptainJ said:
Girls love men who are a bit arrogant, so don't worry about what she says, she's just do the 'I'm not like other girls' crap.

This was my initial thought and if it were as clean cut as that I'd be happy doing my thing. The trouble is her coldness digitally, through texts and messages when I use C&F.
 

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I have learned that women who are turned off by a man who is sure of himself and shows it, are generally not women I want to be around anyway.

those are the womenw daddy issues, emotional issues, using men for validation issues, have to have a man suck up to them issues, expect you to kiss their feet beucase they have a pvssy issues and stuff liket hat.


a healthy woman is attracted to a man who is sure of himself. it's a turn on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Adam said:
This was my initial thought and if it were as clean cut as that I'd be happy doing my thing. The trouble is her coldness digitally, through texts and messages when I use C&F.
Stop using texts and online messaging. Real men speak in person.
Texting just encourages men into the non-physical side of the relationship which makes real life and physical encounters awkward. Trust me, I've been there before, which is why I never use online messaging any more.
 
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