I have read in Pook about how action dates work better than non-action dates. Well I have an impending lunch date because I could not think of anything else. Any advice on making a lunch date fun or perhaps how to transition it to an action date?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When action dates are not an option
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Should do it near a mini putt or bowling alley. Somewhere else in transition. Assuming you are athletic. If you are slower metabolism, dad bod, uncoordinated, don't bother lol
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Take her to church lmao... Day dates are ****ty imo
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.... Pook is probably overthinking. Action dates are good once you know the chick a bit (3-4 dates already). There's nothing wrong with a lunch date, just make it close to a park or monument. Somewhere to take a walk and make conversation. If she likes you, she'll bump and touch you a lot.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.