I have read in Pook about how action dates work better than non-action dates. Well I have an impending lunch date because I could not think of anything else. Any advice on making a lunch date fun or perhaps how to transition it to an action date?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When action dates are not an option
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Should do it near a mini putt or bowling alley. Somewhere else in transition. Assuming you are athletic. If you are slower metabolism, dad bod, uncoordinated, don't bother lol
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Take her to church lmao... Day dates are ****ty imo
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.... Pook is probably overthinking. Action dates are good once you know the chick a bit (3-4 dates already). There's nothing wrong with a lunch date, just make it close to a park or monument. Somewhere to take a walk and make conversation. If she likes you, she'll bump and touch you a lot.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.