"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When a woman is self-deprecating...

Lexington

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What have been your observations with women who are self-deprecating vs. self-aggrandizing?

In my experience, the hotter ones tend to be more critical of themselves. When we seek to improve ourselves, we have to be aware of flaws. So these girls tend to be genuinely hung up on some minor details sometimes.

On the other hand, the 6s and down have to talk themselves up. I guess you have to market yourself a little more aggressively when you have an inferior product. In my experience these broads tend to be more masculine.

That's what I've seen. How do your experiences compare?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Zerro

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Self-deprecating= low self esteem and fishing for compliments
Agreed, when someone depreciates themselves they're hoping for others to boost their ego for them.
 

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I have to disagree with alla youse.

If someone isn't a little self-deprecating now and then I don't trust them.

There's too much, there's too little, and there's nothing at all.
 

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my ex is about a 5 to 7, but very charming, very very submissive at first, would do anything. I would wake up with a cup coffee in my face. But as far as education goes, shes ridiculously good at educating herself, honor role every quarter. But she even told me once that she thinks she is a very average looking Chinese girl. In terms of a guy, im close to a ten. high metabolism raised healthily. But I feel like she would self deprecate herself a lot. When ever i became slightly distant from stress, or being tired from work, she would become very needy. Never ever cry or complain, or be the one to bring anything up. Just become distant. But then again, she grew up with her mother, a surgical nurse for the Chinese military, who would lock her in the bathroom with the light of for hours at a time, for minor things. But I would smoke a lot of pot, which she did not even really know what it was, and she didn't like **** like that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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phillies

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This is why attention is the most important to women. All women are self depreciating, on different levels. Attention, or relationship is generally more important than sex. The greater the need for attention, the greater need for external appreciation, due to the lack of internal appreciation. Its human.
 

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"When a woman is self-deprecating..."

Roissy calls it perfectly: Beta Bait.
 
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