When a woman displays interest from afar or when it is "safe" for her

[Poonani Maker]

I wuz at the grocery store yesterday, a young pale brunette obviously alone rather tall but frumpy (yeah I'd say a little overweight) with double chin (so dogish looking) long black hair. She followed me in the aisles toward the end of my shopping and I could feel a little tension as we were next to each other, so I go to checkout and she's there behind me with much less groceries (though mine carryable with both hands) and I walk to my truck get in putting the stuff away and as I sit to start the truck I look up and she's staring at me from a few rows away before getting into her car - it's a totally blush and mesmerization and smile (without showing teeth) her standing tall. I could do nothing though as I was already starting up my truck and leaving. It would be totally awkward to "seize the day" and stop what I'm doin and go over to her on a Saturday in the parking lot and talk to her. She was obviously "single" and "looking." Do you ever think that you lost an opportunity to give another girl a chance? Do you ever think you only live once? I'm in my 40s, still would've been awkward and low-value display to stop my truck and walk over to her and talk about why she is stalking me. She was Safe from a distance. Only then she could show her interest outright, at a safe distance and not in the store when we were closer, or maybe it was MY fault for not opening while in the store, but you can never be sure that a lone girl near you in the aisle is "interested." I was trying to get in and get out.

 

[Rainman4707]

Whilst driving couple weeks ago i noticed a woman walking along pavement with a child. I turned corner and thought i'll glance back to get a look at her face because from behind she looked tidy. As i glanced back she looked at me also at the same time. e had good eye conatact. I had now turned the corner so thought to myself i cannot go back now i drove about 30 seconds up the road then turned my car back round to see if i could go find her. I noticed her just as i nearly passed her again so i quickly spun my car up right next to her. She grabbed her child (she must have thought, what the hells going on here)
I said " hey, i'll take you out for a drink one night" she replied " sorry pet, i'm married" I responded "ok, no bother" then spun my car back round fast and drove of.

 

[Rainman4707]

I always chat people up. Just throw something general like “it’s pretty hot today huh”. It don’t gotta be the perfect approach. This is why I don’t like the word approach. Guys make it such a big deal. They kill themselves if they don’t approach and they act like they cured cancer if they managed to entertain the woman enough to get a flaky number.

Throw out a bait. Gauge her interest. Put the onus on her to reach back. Allow her to use her feminine charms on you. Women do it to guys they are attracted to all the time. They spend their entire lives learning how to seduce a man. You don’t have to put all the pressure on yourself to move the needle.

Do you know why guys have approach anxiety? Because they have approaching women on a pedestal, as if it accomplishes anything. The only thing your approach does is allow you to gauge her interest. Nothing more nothing less. There’s no magical pickup line.

I minimize the importance’s of approaching women but probably socialize with more women on an average weekend than PUAs. That’s because I’m a social guy. Talking to women is as natural as drinking water. I don’t give a flying Fock about approaching. Only antisocial retards care that much. Normal social people talk to each other as if it’s no big deal.

And if she’s attracted to me, somewhere along the interaction she would give me a window to close her. Or she would close. This is how normal people date and hookup.

This has actually been going on for thousands of years. But PUAs think they invented something.

The more approaches you do, the easier it gets in my experience.

 

[biggoal]

I always chat people up. Just throw something general like “it’s pretty hot today huh”. It don’t gotta be the perfect approach. This is why I don’t like the word approach. Guys make it such a big deal. They kill themselves if they don’t approach and they act like they cured cancer if they managed to entertain the woman enough to get a flaky number.

Throw out a bait. Gauge her interest. Put the onus on her to reach back. Allow her to use her feminine charms on you. Women do it to guys they are attracted to all the time. They spend their entire lives learning how to seduce a man. You don’t have to put all the pressure on yourself to move the needle.

Do you know why guys have approach anxiety? Because they have approaching women on a pedestal, as if it accomplishes anything. The only thing your approach does is allow you to gauge her interest. Nothing more nothing less. There’s no magical pickup line.

I minimize the importance’s of approaching women but probably socialize with more women on an average weekend than PUAs. That’s because I’m a social guy. Talking to women is as natural as drinking water. I don’t give a flying Fock about approaching. Only antisocial retards care that much. Normal social people talk to each other as if it’s no big deal.

And if she’s attracted to me, somewhere along the interaction she would give me a window to close her. Or she would close. This is how normal people date and hookup.

This has actually been going on for thousands of years. But PUAs think they invented something.

See, old takes away approach anxiety. But this woman was a land whale. Oh hell no. I'd be repulsed if she was wanting me. She needs to get lost.

 

[Poonani Maker]

It's mid-August, Summer is waning, people are starting back to school. I could see Summer blues in her eyes, you know, Summer's over, and we soon head into the Dead months. I'd certainly have fvcked her and kept her company. I should've done something, mainly because I hate to see lonely young girls who are probably getting no play because of their mimicing behavior of the hot girls they see, the selfish hot girls they emulate. They adopted their behaviors even though they themselves (like this one) are not "hot" and are overweight and facially below average, pissing off guys and now their lonely. Should I reward a woman following a false imperative who is realizing it doesn't work if you are not hot and thus has changed her ways but now is lonely for following a lie?

 

[biggoal]

It's mid-August, Summer is waning, people are starting back to school. I could see Summer blues in her eyes, you know, Summer's over, and we soon head into the Dead months. I'd certainly have fvcked her and kept her company. I should've done something, mainly because I hate to see lonely young girls who are probably getting no play because of their mimicing behavior of the hot girls they see, the selfish hot girls they emulate. They adopted their behaviors even though they themselves (like this one) are not "hot" and are overweight and facially below average, pissing off guys and now their lonely. Should I reward a woman following a false imperative who is realizing it doesn't work if you are not hot and thus has changed her ways but now is lonely for following a lie?

Hell no. I would never plow an ugly land whale. Why? It's hard work but I can just go on match and work on getting a date with an hb7 and above. Even okcupid while its mostly ugly girls here in fl I can still get an hb7 to reply. Even if it takes 20 hb8s to message to get one reply and date it's still better than getting an land whale that's easy to get.

 

[Rainman4707]

@ st

Forget easy. It will never be easy. Or at least if you stop approaching for awhile you will be like rubber band that stretched itself but went back to its original shape of experiencing approach anxiety. It takes an incredible amount of resistance just for you to overcome this anxiety.

What I see is a failed method. What I would do instead is change my entire frame from PUAs/male seducer to a social person. You will still do approaches but the importance of it gets minimized. It would come natural. The rubber band changes entirely, it doesn’t just get stretched.

Stretching yourself does nothing in the long run. You must upgrade your frame.

Two guys can do the same thing but one guy will feel like it’s as natural as taking a sh1t while the other guy feels the weight of the world on his shoulders. The difference is in mindset.

When I go out I socialize, I network, when I see blatant iois I escalate. It’s not that complicated.

Yes, i agree with you. I don't socialise with women much. I dont see women at work. Not many women get out in local pub. I make money, read books and have a house to keep. Those are my choices, so i go for women when i have time or when i choose to go out and find one.
Like i say though, i think your post is right.

 

[Rainman4707]

It's mid-August, Summer is waning, people are starting back to school. I could see Summer blues in her eyes, you know, Summer's over, and we soon head into the Dead months. I'd certainly have fvcked her and kept her company. I should've done something, mainly because I hate to see lonely young girls who are probably getting no play because of their mimicing behavior of the hot girls they see, the selfish hot girls they emulate. They adopted their behaviors even though they themselves (like this one) are not "hot" and are overweight and facially below average, pissing off guys and now their lonely. Should I reward a woman following a false imperative who is realizing it doesn't work if you are not hot and thus has changed her ways but now is lonely for following a lie?

If you want to approach her, then approach her. If you dont think she deserves your approach, then dont approach her.