"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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When a wingmen brings you down....

Crissco

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I had a great night tonight, out of the half an hr I stayed a the club, but my friend was such a downer. Im trying to get him out of his shell. I had to do all the work my self. I got 4 pics with 10 different girls. Should I try to help this kid, or find a new wingmen who we can work togeather with and laugh about it on the way home?

Also, these girls wanted me to take my shirt off and take a picture of me. Rubbing my stomach, also, a girl bought me a drink and I asked for her number, she showed me her ring, and she was engaged. Why would she buy me a drink then deny me her number?

Maybe bc her friends liked me more and wanted the pictures badly?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Crissco said:
I had a great night tonight, out of the half an hr I stayed a the club, but my friend was such a downer. Im trying to get him out of his shell. I had to do all the work my self. I got 4 pics with 10 different girls. Should I try to help this kid, or find a new wingmen who we can work togeather with and laugh about it on the way home?

Maybe give him one more chance. We'll all had bad nights and/or nights where we completely froze up. But if you see that his is unwilling to improve, I'd find somebody else or just sarge alone.

Also, these girls wanted me to take my shirt off and take a picture of me. Rubbing my stomach, also, a girl bought me a drink and I asked for her number, she showed me her ring, and she was engaged. Why would she buy me a drink then deny me her number?

She was engaged dude. She doesn't want her fiance to see that some random guy called or texted her. She bought you a drink because you were fun and she enjoyed the attention.

Maybe bc her friends liked me more and wanted the pictures badly?
Sure. She may also have wanted to keep your around long enough to entertain her friends or even to help you get with one of them.
 

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If this continues to happen with your wing, then you need to get a new one or go out alone. It can take a lot of energy to work on your game (which is why so few guys have it), and if he is not interested in improving and being open to honest criticism, then don't wing with him anymore.

The girl bought you a drink, and you should be happy about that. There could be a number of reasons for why you didn't get the number, but who care? Just take the free drink and go approach some other girls.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I had a great night tonight, out of the half an hr I stayed a the club, but my friend was such a downer. Im trying to get him out of his shell. I had to do all the work my self. I got 4 pics with 10 different girls. Should I try to help this kid, or find a new wingmen who we can work togeather with and laugh about it on the way home?

Maybe give him one more chance. We'll all had bad nights and/or nights where we completely froze up. But if you see that his is unwilling to improve, I'd find somebody else or just sarge alone.

Also, these girls wanted me to take my shirt off and take a picture of me. Rubbing my stomach, also, a girl bought me a drink and I asked for her number, she showed me her ring, and she was engaged. Why would she buy me a drink then deny me her number?

She was engaged dude. She doesn't want her fiance to see that some random guy called or texted her. She bought you a drink because you were fun and she enjoyed the attention.

Maybe bc her friends liked me more and wanted the pictures badly?

Sure. She may also have wanted to keep your around long enough to entertain her friends or even to help you get with one of them.
Exactly, hes a good workout partner, and also got a big heart. Im going to give him another chanceHes nit really a social person though, which im trying to help him break out of his shell, not much I can do though untill he puts in the effort.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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