"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Crissco

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I had a great night tonight, out of the half an hr I stayed a the club, but my friend was such a downer. Im trying to get him out of his shell. I had to do all the work my self. I got 4 pics with 10 different girls. Should I try to help this kid, or find a new wingmen who we can work togeather with and laugh about it on the way home?

Also, these girls wanted me to take my shirt off and take a picture of me. Rubbing my stomach, also, a girl bought me a drink and I asked for her number, she showed me her ring, and she was engaged. Why would she buy me a drink then deny me her number?

Maybe bc her friends liked me more and wanted the pictures badly?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Crissco said:
I had a great night tonight, out of the half an hr I stayed a the club, but my friend was such a downer. Im trying to get him out of his shell. I had to do all the work my self. I got 4 pics with 10 different girls. Should I try to help this kid, or find a new wingmen who we can work togeather with and laugh about it on the way home?

Maybe give him one more chance. We'll all had bad nights and/or nights where we completely froze up. But if you see that his is unwilling to improve, I'd find somebody else or just sarge alone.

Also, these girls wanted me to take my shirt off and take a picture of me. Rubbing my stomach, also, a girl bought me a drink and I asked for her number, she showed me her ring, and she was engaged. Why would she buy me a drink then deny me her number?

She was engaged dude. She doesn't want her fiance to see that some random guy called or texted her. She bought you a drink because you were fun and she enjoyed the attention.

Maybe bc her friends liked me more and wanted the pictures badly?
Sure. She may also have wanted to keep your around long enough to entertain her friends or even to help you get with one of them.
 

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If this continues to happen with your wing, then you need to get a new one or go out alone. It can take a lot of energy to work on your game (which is why so few guys have it), and if he is not interested in improving and being open to honest criticism, then don't wing with him anymore.

The girl bought you a drink, and you should be happy about that. There could be a number of reasons for why you didn't get the number, but who care? Just take the free drink and go approach some other girls.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I had a great night tonight, out of the half an hr I stayed a the club, but my friend was such a downer. Im trying to get him out of his shell. I had to do all the work my self. I got 4 pics with 10 different girls. Should I try to help this kid, or find a new wingmen who we can work togeather with and laugh about it on the way home?

Maybe give him one more chance. We'll all had bad nights and/or nights where we completely froze up. But if you see that his is unwilling to improve, I'd find somebody else or just sarge alone.

Also, these girls wanted me to take my shirt off and take a picture of me. Rubbing my stomach, also, a girl bought me a drink and I asked for her number, she showed me her ring, and she was engaged. Why would she buy me a drink then deny me her number?

She was engaged dude. She doesn't want her fiance to see that some random guy called or texted her. She bought you a drink because you were fun and she enjoyed the attention.

Maybe bc her friends liked me more and wanted the pictures badly?

Sure. She may also have wanted to keep your around long enough to entertain her friends or even to help you get with one of them.
Exactly, hes a good workout partner, and also got a big heart. Im going to give him another chanceHes nit really a social person though, which im trying to help him break out of his shell, not much I can do though untill he puts in the effort.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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