When a person is interested in you. But "interested" for all thw wrong reasons

[9Volt]

Are you able to tell if a persons "interested" in you but interested in you for all the wrong reasons?

Do you get blindsided by their looks or potential "value" they could provide you? Does their seeming "interest" in you cause you to dismiss red flags?

How do each of you know when an "interested" chick is interested in you for all the wrong reasons?

Possibly using you as a "come up".

Attention seeking.

Jealousy plot.

Or for their own for the moment validation.

 

[Urbanyst]

Before I can answer this, I need to know what you believe the right reasons are.

From my experience, relationships are a practical thing for women more than men. Since men are more independent, they seek people out because they actually like them or because of sexual attraction. Women are less independent and seek out relationships more for social and practical reasons.

Women don't seem to fall in love the way men do. Whenever I listen to female co-workers talking about their husbands or boyfriends, they are usually either dissing them or bragging about something he did for them (vacation, gift, home cooked meal, expensive engagement ring, etc.). 90% of the time they are dissing the guy. They are just with him so they can say they have someone. Better than being single in their book.

 

[Serenity]

I will define the wrong reasons as dependent upon what I am seeking. So that is a variable. If I'm looking for a relationship then the wrong reasons would actually be a pretty big list. If I'm looking to have some cheap sex then the wrong reason is if she's seeking a relationship, apart from that she can have whatever reason she wants.

If I can tell what another person wants? Yes, most people are pretty sh!t at hiding their motives. I can tell from what they are focusing the most on, especially in conversation.

Do I get blindsided by looks, potential value or their interest in me? No, especially when taking the potential catastrophic consequences into account.

But yeah, it depends on what I want. The bar for a relationship is obviously a lot higher than for a quick and easy fvck.