"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When a person is interested in you. But "interested" for all thw wrong reasons

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Are you able to tell if a persons "interested" in you but interested in you for all the wrong reasons?

Do you get blindsided by their looks or potential "value" they could provide you? Does their seeming "interest" in you cause you to dismiss red flags?

How do each of you know when an "interested" chick is interested in you for all the wrong reasons?

Possibly using you as a "come up".

Attention seeking.

Jealousy plot.

Or for their own for the moment validation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Before I can answer this, I need to know what you believe the right reasons are.

From my experience, relationships are a practical thing for women more than men. Since men are more independent, they seek people out because they actually like them or because of sexual attraction. Women are less independent and seek out relationships more for social and practical reasons.

Women don't seem to fall in love the way men do. Whenever I listen to female co-workers talking about their husbands or boyfriends, they are usually either dissing them or bragging about something he did for them (vacation, gift, home cooked meal, expensive engagement ring, etc.). 90% of the time they are dissing the guy. They are just with him so they can say they have someone. Better than being single in their book.
 
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I will define the wrong reasons as dependent upon what I am seeking. So that is a variable. If I'm looking for a relationship then the wrong reasons would actually be a pretty big list. If I'm looking to have some cheap sex then the wrong reason is if she's seeking a relationship, apart from that she can have whatever reason she wants.

If I can tell what another person wants? Yes, most people are pretty sh!t at hiding their motives. I can tell from what they are focusing the most on, especially in conversation.

Do I get blindsided by looks, potential value or their interest in me? No, especially when taking the potential catastrophic consequences into account.

But yeah, it depends on what I want. The bar for a relationship is obviously a lot higher than for a quick and easy fvck.
 
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