"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a girl tells you she has a boyfriend
- Thread starter Thechamp
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nabucodonosor
Don Juan
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I think you're being too harsh. Maybe it's just me, but being the alpha male isn't just about being more aggressive than his boyfriend or whoever. I think it's about finding a balance between "rage" and being able to overcome the others in intelligence.
I would have said something funny, like, "let's test your boyfriend then", which will make her curious about you, because she will be doing something "prohibited" and will not make her think you are being extremely aggresive.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
If she's saying she's taken, she's not interested (and the girls who do it to "test" you and see if you'll keep going are probably the game-y attention ***** type, which you likely don't want to hang out with anyway). No harm done, just let her go with the same bounce in your step with which you approached her.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
