"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a girl tells you she has a boyfriend
- Thread starter Thechamp
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nabucodonosor
Don Juan
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I think you're being too harsh. Maybe it's just me, but being the alpha male isn't just about being more aggressive than his boyfriend or whoever. I think it's about finding a balance between "rage" and being able to overcome the others in intelligence.
I would have said something funny, like, "let's test your boyfriend then", which will make her curious about you, because she will be doing something "prohibited" and will not make her think you are being extremely aggresive.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
If she's saying she's taken, she's not interested (and the girls who do it to "test" you and see if you'll keep going are probably the game-y attention ***** type, which you likely don't want to hang out with anyway). No harm done, just let her go with the same bounce in your step with which you approached her.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
