"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When a girl says she's single

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She's most likely:

1) screwing another ex in cycles like you take a car for an oil change every 5k miles

2) with an ex that won't recommit to getting back together

3) talking to three other guys

4) Trying to put some loser/bad boy in to a relationship so she can make him some super Jesus Millionaire/James Bond/Beta provider type guy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Trainwreck said:
She's most likely:

1) screwing another ex in cycles like you take a car for an oil change every 5k miles

2) with an ex that won't recommit to getting back together

3) talking to three other guys

4) Trying to put some loser/bad boy in to a relationship so she can make him some super Jesus Millionaire/James Bond/Beta provider type guy
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... or she just wants a boyfriend... namely, you. Too much hermeneutics going on here sometimes.
 
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ubercat said:
Probably true but shouldn't make any difference to how u operate
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So a woman tells me she doesn't have a boyfriend the other day... over a coffee. I simply say with a grin and without batting an eyelid, 'neither do I... a girlfriend I mean, we will have to hang out together more often then!' Taking her out to dinner and movies tonight. I don't usually do this... but it is like we are role-playing being boyfriend and girlfriend, which I am happy to roll with.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Pretty common with Asian girls that they want the boyfriend experience up front. Holding hands from the beginning of the first date seems std which freaked me out the first time I encountered it.
 
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I wouldn't ask. Honestly, the onus is on her to communicate what her status is. If you are looking for a serious female for an LTR then definitely ask. You need to determine the quality of female you are speaking with. Otherwise, assume single-ness and have fun!
 
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as long as she's not officially with anyone and is open to being banged by new guys, she's single.

however this doesn't mean that she doesn't have anything going on, unless she's particularly busy, not very attractive or recently heartbroken
 
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ChristopherColumbus said:
... or she just wants a boyfriend... namely, you. Too much hermeneutics going on here sometimes.
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It's obvious many of these dudes are deeply insecure and try to mask it with their keyboard "alpha" act. They don't even give themselves genuine credit. Everything is a negative.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:
You guys are so cynical. Who the hell cares?
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I think the point is that you shouldn't be surprised to find out that single means she's ****ing 3 other guys, it's a side effect of going after HB9s
 
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ImTheDoubleGreatest! said:
That's exactly my point. So then why should we care?
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we shouldn't. it's only important if you were under another impression or if you needed a reminder.

just yesterday I was reading a thread where the OP didn't want to acknowledge the possibility that a girl would go cold on you suddenly and then come back because of another guy coming into and then out of the picture, that guy could've used some reminding that he's not the only player in the game

it also ties into that whole striking while the iron is hot thing, so that nobody else has a chance to steal your girl
 
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Yep most good looking women have something going on, they are seldom completely single. Never worry about what her 'status' is she will let you know if she is available.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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