Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yes.chuchu said:Next, is the name of the game.
I will go get another girl within 2 minutes.
Even if I see a girl who acts like slugs, I just walk away even in a middle of a conversation. Don't waste your time with those types.
Yes.r0cky said:It means she doesnt like talking to you.
Move on to the next girl.
Terrible advice. The first part of 1) is plenty, no need to say anything. 2) just shows frustration, 3) means she's in power and 4) is just wasting time you could use getting other girls.COD said:two things..............1) she might actually have had some sort of emergency (too many to mention)
2) THIS IS CLASSIC CHIC CODE FOR ..............she is spinning plates (has more men calling her). Chics often opt the cliche` I will call you later, call you back, can i call you right back, or similar variations.
Your response.............
1) NEXT-quick and less headaches........not 100% accurate but in most cases works well. Just say "ya right........I aint new to this.......playa" then hang up.
2) TEXT AND SAY WTF OR WHATS GIVES?
3) call her up and seduce
4) WAIT TIL SHE CALLS...........its possible, it does happen but not an average.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.