"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a girl says "nothings going to happen"...Escalation...
- Thread starter Crissco
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
drewsg
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Just get her in a situation where you guys are both close together and start touching her.. if she resists, back off and then start again a few minutes later
Chickfight
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Nooope
Again, don't look at what she says, look at what she does. In your case coming over to your house and "hanging out" with you alone.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Korrupt
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They want it, but they want it to be your fault.
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NEVER believe what they say they won't do.
Watch them say it then do the complete opposite...awesome!!
Crissco
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She came over, we watched comedy movies, cuddled a bit, gave eachother massages. Kissed, but nothing big. When I gave her a massage I kept tickling her and she got pissed lol wtf..She does want to hang out again tomorow.
I even tried backing off, nothing..It weird ive has girls hotter then her jump on and me eat them out the first night.
For tomorrow night how should I pull this off that I can get in her pants?
Let's Get Real
Don Juan
One time a girl said "is it possible that we go back to your house, make-out and not have sex?" I said, "yea anything's possible...but who said I wanted to have sex with you? You gotta get in line just like the rest of em
" We were f@cking 2 hours later.Crissco
Master Don Juan
Exactly what I said last night on the phone.Let's Get Real said:Next time she says nothings going to happen...tell her "don't flatter yourself, would said I wanted it too?"
One time a girl said "is it possible that we go back to your house, make-out and not have sex?" I said, "yea anything's possible...but who said I wanted to have sex with you? You gotta get in line just like the rest of em
ha ha nice bro!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Let's Get Real
Don Juan
Hell yea! I don't know where I got it or after the book of pook i became it...Crissco said:
When I was driving to the hockey game...I also told her, "I hope you brought some money cuz I ain't payin for you." And then turned up the music and started dancing...she was so pissed it was hilarious.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Ive said **** like that too. But i came to realize thats not the way to go. You have to do it in a more suttle way. If you seduce her well enough she'll suggest that she pays. Then u know ur inLet's Get Real said:
However, if she's trying to be controlling or bluntly tells you it's not going to happen, I recommend Mystery's "Freeze Out" technique. Basically go as far as you can with her, kissing, touching, but when she stops you, just say "Ok, no problem. Let's watch TV" or "Ok. Let's go out" and just stop ALL activity. You could even start texting your friends. The key is to withdraw all the physical attention that was making her feel good and act totally indifferent to it by turning your attention to something else.
My ex used to play these control games with me at one time and it used to really annoy me. Then I started using this freeze out and it worked wonders.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I did the freeze out. Didnt work bro. I was shocked. She said she went further then expected for the first time meeting me.Jariel said:Depends how she says it. If she tells you she's nervous, she wants to wait or something along those lines I think it's fair to respect that and not push it.
However, if she's trying to be controlling or bluntly tells you it's not going to happen, I recommend Mystery's "Freeze Out" technique. Basically go as far as you can with her, kissing, touching, but when she stops you, just say "Ok, no problem. Let's watch TV" or "Ok. Let's go out" and just stop ALL activity. You could even start texting your friends. The key is to withdraw all the physical attention that was making her feel good and act totally indifferent to it by turning your attention to something else.
My ex used to play these control games with me at one time and it used to really annoy me. Then I started using this freeze out and it worked wonders.
When I was giving her a message, I went near her ass and she got pissed, I accidentally tickled her she got pissed. LOL..So im guessing she is serious about not wanting to take it to far the first time. She "acted" or was really into the movie since she never saw it, then out of no where I go to kiss her, she kisses me, we start taking pictures forget about the movie. Then she goes back to watching the movie..lol wtf, seriously.
Overall went a bit better then excepted. Like I said took funny pictures together, kissed a bit...etc
I walked her to her car, and she gave me a quick kiss on the lips, WTF was that, then she goes thats all ur getting. I started to laugh bc I thought it was actually funny.
Ill see where tomorrow night leads and update.
she woudln't say anything otherwise. I mean really? you don't know how to escalate? Just kiss her, touch her be arousing, easy. cf: how to foreplay for dummies.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
If you cna read correctly we did already dumbassBBbardot said:girls love to be used for sex. If she says that, the work is already half done
I mean really? you don't know how to escalate? Just kiss her, touch her be arousing, easy. cf: how to foreplay for dummies.
I know, im working on getting it back tonight.
We'll see how it goes
backbreaker
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Oh yeah and you should always escalate, but remember to be patient and not act like a horndog all the time.
Crissco
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She was at my place bro lolChickfight said:
Its funny though, ive brought girls over who where 10X hotter then her, and i ate them out the first time. Always started with the message, then went down lower..etc
But to get back on point, it does make sense since its the first time I met her. Im just gonna take it by ear, dont push to hard and just have fun.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.