"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ok so what happened today is. i was on Facebook and a friend of mine posted something about buying clothes. i asked if they were heels cos i am a heels man. she posted a pic of the heels with the caption. " so packers can get off tonight"

so after that a hole convo spewed about about heels n stuff. then half way threw she drops " I'm not wearing my heels for you" i just brushed it off. cos i don't care wither she dose or some doesn't. i just like talking about that stuff.

she has said this a few times on different things. each time i have blew it off. what do you guys think? sh@T test or what.

had this happen to an old girl. after like 3 times of saying no. she said yes. so. maybe i will get lucky with this girl and i will get some heels action.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You call her a "friend". Just what is the nature of your relationship? The answer will have a lot to do with that.

On the surface it sounds like she felt she opened Pandora's box by posting a pic and making a sexual reference. Then when the reality of meeting up with you hit, she had to shut the box, otherwise there would be an implied committment to sexual activity.

Or not....
 

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hahaha I'm diggin Atom Smasher's analytical brain. I think he hit the nail on the head though.

Edit: I think she wants you, but she wants you to seduce her. I say the box is still open, but whatever you been doing just keep doing it.
 

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Chamber36 said:
hahaha I'm diggin Atom Smasher's analytical brain. I think he hit the nail on the head though.

Edit: I think she wants you, but she wants you to seduce her. I say the box is still open, but whatever you been doing just keep doing it.

oh i intend too. only problem is i am leaving soon. so i was hoping i could fast foreword the process so she makes it a bit more obvious you know. i don't really want to make a move and have her stop me. that would be game over.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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