"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When a girl is too good to be true

Vypros

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My gut instincts are telling me there is some bull**** going on I have yet to figureout.
Let me tell you some solid advice I received from someone when my last relationship failed:

Don't listen to your heart...because it's weak and can be manipulated.

Don't listen to your mind...because it can be tricked.

ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, listen to your gut instinct because it's NEVER wrong.


I live by that creed now, because it's the truth. I can't tell you how many times that I've had a gut instinct about something and ignored it and then it came back to bite me in the ass later.

When something seems too good to be true, it usually is!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJDamage

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00Kevin said:
My gut instincts are telling me there is some bull**** going on I have yet to figureout.
That is a good thing to have your gut talking to you, you are more intune to what is happening in the real world instead of walking blindly in the dark because she declares her love for you. This obviously means that you are not ready to fully committ to this girl because something ain't sitting right either with you or with her, either way only time will tell you if there is really something there.
 

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00Kevin said:
Have any of you guys ever had a woman that is just too damn good to be true?
Not in the USA!

If she seems too good, rest assured that she's hiding an STD or some other dark secret. You hardly even know her yet...so expect her true colors to show at some point when she slowly comes out of hibernation mode.
 

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wayword said:
Not in the USA!

If she seems too good, rest assured that she's hiding an STD or some other dark secret. You hardly even know her yet...so expect her true colors to show at some point when she slowly comes out of hibernation mode.

Is that mean that every girl you meet and she satisifies you and makes you happy automatically makes her a liar with STD?? wtf is wrong with you??
 

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I think it's a rare thing to come across someone who is truly too good to be true. More than likely someone is more focused on their positive attributes to notice (which isn't entirely a bad thing).

Step back to get a broader view and recognize the entire person. If then the person still seems perfect, great! If not it still may be pretty damn good. Worse case scenario is that you realize that your rose colored glasses were smudged.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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00Kevin

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wayword said:
Not in the USA!

If she seems too good, rest assured that she's hiding an STD or some other dark secret. You hardly even know her yet...so expect her true colors to show at some point when she slowly comes out of hibernation mode.
well she isn't from the USA or canada. I stoped dating those hors a while ago.

I 've listened to a lot of sound advice here and used it to go woman shopping.

I will ask her if she has any dark secrets.. just to see how she reacts.

My situation is like buying brand new BMW for the cost of a ford pinto. I just can't believe it. It must be stolen.

Then again perhaps modern women are way over priced.
 

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I have something similar with my gf. She's foreign as well and has displayed the highest IL i've ever gotten off any girl. I've only being dating her for 10 weeks but her IL has remained sky high in that time. The funny thing is that it is a bit unsettling. I don't agree with calling all american women "hors" (thats stupid talk) however they rarely display an IL so high that you feel completely in control.

I am a little insecure about my self worth so it does lead me to questioning why this good looking girl is so hung up on me. Whats the catch etc.
Ultimately i think this is an issue you have and nothing to do with the gf.
 
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