"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When a girl is too good to be true

Vypros

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My gut instincts are telling me there is some bull**** going on I have yet to figureout.
Let me tell you some solid advice I received from someone when my last relationship failed:

Don't listen to your heart...because it's weak and can be manipulated.

Don't listen to your mind...because it can be tricked.

ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, listen to your gut instinct because it's NEVER wrong.


I live by that creed now, because it's the truth. I can't tell you how many times that I've had a gut instinct about something and ignored it and then it came back to bite me in the ass later.

When something seems too good to be true, it usually is!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJDamage

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00Kevin said:
My gut instincts are telling me there is some bull**** going on I have yet to figureout.
That is a good thing to have your gut talking to you, you are more intune to what is happening in the real world instead of walking blindly in the dark because she declares her love for you. This obviously means that you are not ready to fully committ to this girl because something ain't sitting right either with you or with her, either way only time will tell you if there is really something there.
 

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00Kevin said:
Have any of you guys ever had a woman that is just too damn good to be true?
Not in the USA!

If she seems too good, rest assured that she's hiding an STD or some other dark secret. You hardly even know her yet...so expect her true colors to show at some point when she slowly comes out of hibernation mode.
 

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wayword said:
Not in the USA!

If she seems too good, rest assured that she's hiding an STD or some other dark secret. You hardly even know her yet...so expect her true colors to show at some point when she slowly comes out of hibernation mode.

Is that mean that every girl you meet and she satisifies you and makes you happy automatically makes her a liar with STD?? wtf is wrong with you??
 

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I think it's a rare thing to come across someone who is truly too good to be true. More than likely someone is more focused on their positive attributes to notice (which isn't entirely a bad thing).

Step back to get a broader view and recognize the entire person. If then the person still seems perfect, great! If not it still may be pretty damn good. Worse case scenario is that you realize that your rose colored glasses were smudged.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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00Kevin

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wayword said:
Not in the USA!

If she seems too good, rest assured that she's hiding an STD or some other dark secret. You hardly even know her yet...so expect her true colors to show at some point when she slowly comes out of hibernation mode.
well she isn't from the USA or canada. I stoped dating those hors a while ago.

I 've listened to a lot of sound advice here and used it to go woman shopping.

I will ask her if she has any dark secrets.. just to see how she reacts.

My situation is like buying brand new BMW for the cost of a ford pinto. I just can't believe it. It must be stolen.

Then again perhaps modern women are way over priced.
 

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I have something similar with my gf. She's foreign as well and has displayed the highest IL i've ever gotten off any girl. I've only being dating her for 10 weeks but her IL has remained sky high in that time. The funny thing is that it is a bit unsettling. I don't agree with calling all american women "hors" (thats stupid talk) however they rarely display an IL so high that you feel completely in control.

I am a little insecure about my self worth so it does lead me to questioning why this good looking girl is so hung up on me. Whats the catch etc.
Ultimately i think this is an issue you have and nothing to do with the gf.
 
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