"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
when a girl asks you how many other girls your seeing?
- Thread starter jamescr73
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Fortunate_Juan
Senior Don Juan
ten thousand, but I haven't gotten all their numbers yet.
T Square
Don Juan
If she already knows, it sounds like some kind of insecure girl thing. Just say something funny to brush it off and keep things from getting too much of a serious tone, like:
Her: How many girls are you seeing?
You: More than you.
Then you can accuse her of being a lesbian and make her prove to you that she's straight. I'm sure you can think of a few good tests...
musclyjerk
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"Well, I'm seeing 3.. I mean.. one is really sexy but she's not that pretty where as this other one I'm thinking is maybe a little short but I'd hit it, then there's Rachael who has huge tits.. now there's you, hmm... so how many guys are you seeing anyway?"
Say it all in a way that suggests you're seeing other girls and the ones in your story were false and made-up and you aren't serious about any of the girls that you are seeing - which includes her.
That way you're up-front and you're being a little fun about it, while not really answering her question......... great eh!
The Muscly Jerk
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"Thousands."jamescr73 said:
Then point out every girl that passes by Oh look, there's another one! And another one! How many is that?
If she makes it clearer, "How many are you dating" "Why, are you going to stalk them all?" You could be funny about it and say "I lost count."
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
"Well, what's your concern? We're not boyfriend/girlfriend, so I've honored the committment we currently have."
Or you could do what DeAngelo has suggested.. as I remember.. "you know, I believe relationships get screwed up soooo many times because people rush in before knowing each other... I don't want that with you."
For full disclosure, I'm not a player.. but, if I haven't made a committment, she is being disrespectful to hold me to one. How many girls I'm seeing is no more her business than it is for any guy friend I hang out with. Now, don't be harsh with her, but I wouldn't play along with her implying guilt, when I've been good to her.