"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a girl asks " how was the party yesterday"
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thorninmyside
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Albatross953
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Is this rocket science?
Answer the question.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
narcissist
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Not to be rude or anything pairplus, because I usually like your posts alot, but I have to disagree with you on this point.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I dont like this mentality of "I gave the wrong answer" or "sh*t, I should have said something different"
There is no fvcking wrong answer.
Be UNAPOLOGETICALLY you. If they dont like it? dont beat your self up. There are plenty of other women out there.
The second we start manipulating every damn word we say is the second we become SLAVES to the vagina. Sorry but I for one will not do that.
I will say whatever the fvck pleases ME. I will be SELF-amused. If they dont like it then DROP THEM.
Obviously go by the fundamentals such as having a sh*t load of core confidence and being ****y and funny, but DO NOT begin formulating and contemplating granular factors. That is the epitome of PVSSY whipped. And is a sure fire way to get your mind warped, and begin a downward spiral all the way back to AFC ville.
So OP, such a question is left up to your own imagination. Say what will make YOU laugh, say what will AMUSE YOU. If it ends up that she also finds it amusing GREAT! But if not, on to the next.
I say it is the most pitiful thing when a man sacrifices his own personality to get laid.
ps: I mean no offence PPRF, this is just my own opinion.
I agree with the rest of your post, but how does this even compute? If you have a sh!tload of core confidence etc. you won't be mulling over and trying to micromanage every detail of your actions, this would be insecurity. If you mean that he should stop being insecure and become confident, well I'd say it's better to try and not give a fvck, at first you lie to yourself that you don't care, but then you really don't. Somehow then, confidence gets a place to grow.narcissist said: