"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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when a girl asks about sex

blackbelt2k

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So i was talking on the phone last night with a chick i met offline. She comes out and asks me, how many women have i slept with.. this is the convo:

ME: i don't know, i don't keep count
HB: wow, its that many, you can't keep count, your a *****
Me: what does it matter, i'm talking toyou know aren't I?
HB: blah blah, how many
and this continues until she's says:
HB: give me a proximity
ME: 12, In the proximity of 12

whats a better way to handle this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There was a thread on this recently, I think the consensus was a sarcastic answer like "how many stars are in the sky?". There was one really funny one but I cant remmember it.
 

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Well the only thing that i can remmember that could mabye work would be this, but I doubt it would help, b/c she still might ask more.
Her: So how many ppl have you slept with?
You: You first
Her: [w/e number], how abut you?
You: I hope it's not a competition, b/c I hate losing.
Her: Youve slept with less than [X] people.
You: Oh, you consider less losing?

That may shut her up, but idk wht shes like.
 

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If you are not quick-witted or a smart ass, just show some back bone and tell her,
"That is none of your buisness."

And don't cave in when she keeps bugging you about it, cause she will.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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"Why do you want to know?"
 

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Man, you guys think of some brutal questions.

Like the above, she doens't need to know, or you can be honest, or you can round off. No big deal. If you're over 20, it's EXPECTED that you've had some.
 

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Her: How many times have you had sex?
Me: How many posts does Docs have on sosuave?
Her: WOW THATS A LOT!!!!!
Me: Nah, you should see Francisco d'Anconia!
Her: OMG you pimp!
Me: Gimme a BJ!
Her: Anything you say!!
 

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First Answer:

"Hmm, this week?"


Second Answer:

"Does my mom count?" (sarcastically, for you geeks who won't get it)


Third Answer:

"I don't sleep with girls. I have them go home after we are done"


Fourth Answer:

"Thousands"

Stick to your last answer, because she will keep asking, if you've allowed it to get that far.
 

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I would just keep deflecting her with humor the first few times.

Her: How many people have you slept with?
You: Today? None.

etc. If she really presses you, like someone said, just say it's none of her business.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I would joke around with her... Since it was online I would have been I don't discuss these things over the internet. Did u know her already or just over the net?
 

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bachelor said:
I would joke around with her... Since it was online I would have been I don't discuss these things over the internet. Did u know her already or just over the net?

Yet another example why most of you have no business getting into conversations online. If you must date online, take it to the phone ASAP, and just to set up a meeting. Stop allowing women to make you jump through her hoops. Take charge.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Gangster Of Love said:
...Stop allowing women to make you jump through her hoops. Take charge.
:yes: Amen.
 

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actually i met her off plentyoffish, and it was on the phone... i have a date with her tomorrow, she's taking me a bbq party.. im gonna try to get some head, i'll report how things go
 
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