Ever dated a girl that says she is like a dude? I mean they will sit there and think they are not drama queens or irational or needy or whatever but then in the end they think with there emotions still? They still wind up acting like a gorl in the long run
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
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when a chick says she is like a guy.
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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yes they still act like girls. There use to be a poster on here that said that constantly that she thinks like a guy, yet she was the biggest AW and drama causing person ever.sosilky said:Ever dated a girl that says she is like a dude? I mean they will sit there and think they are not drama queens or irational or needy or whatever but then in the end they think with there emotions still? They still wind up acting like a gorl in the long run
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Just to be on the safe side I would check down her (or his) pants to make sure...this person might be trying to tell you shes literally a guy.
john paul
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What causes them to feel this way I wonder. If shes telling you that then she can't be all that ashamed of it, maybe even proud of the fact?
haha she admires and loves men so much she wishes to be just like them and not fit our sterotypical counterpart.
haha she admires and loves men so much she wishes to be just like them and not fit our sterotypical counterpart.
MrNotebook said:Just to be on the safe side I would check down her (or his) pants to make sure...this person might be trying to tell you shes literally a guy.
why do people have to waste my time with this crap?
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She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
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Geez, I must have some girl in me.... I can be quite a drama ***** myself:crackup: Maybe it's from hanging out at girly type websites?? (not this one)ketostix said:Yes they still act like girls. There use to be a poster on here that said that constantly that she thinks like a guy, yet she was the biggest AW and drama causing person ever.
There are girls like that; at least where I live.
e.g. girls who just want to go out and have ONS or just want sex without the hassle of a boyfriend.
I totally got gamed by a girl like that because as much as I enjoyed the sex, I ended up wanting more but she didn't.
e.g. girls who just want to go out and have ONS or just want sex without the hassle of a boyfriend.
I totally got gamed by a girl like that because as much as I enjoyed the sex, I ended up wanting more but she didn't.
The ironic thing is anytime a girl says I'm like a man or xyz or I'm not like xyz you can pretty sure she pretty much the opposite to whatever she said.AlanB said:There are girls like that; at least where I live.
e.g. girls who just want to go out and have ONS or just want sex without the hassle of a boyfriend.
I totally got gamed by a girl like that because as much as I enjoyed the sex, I ended up wanting more but she didn't.
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Yes, I have seen this too, and I usually have two problems with it.
1) The girls I've seen do this usually go out of their way to be more "guy like" with the logic being (I assume) that some guys will be attracted to girls who like girls that are more into manly stuff-sports, getting their hands dirty. It's almost like they go overboard trying to project this image, and it gets old. And as you noted, they usually still do their share of "chick" things when it comes to drama and the like.
2) In as much as it can be frustrating to try to understand the average woman, I don't want to date a dude. I am willing to accept some normal annoyances, like taking a little too long to get ready, or not wanting do a few guy things, not being into sports, etc-in the interest of having the girl be feminine. That's what your guy friends are for.
1) The girls I've seen do this usually go out of their way to be more "guy like" with the logic being (I assume) that some guys will be attracted to girls who like girls that are more into manly stuff-sports, getting their hands dirty. It's almost like they go overboard trying to project this image, and it gets old. And as you noted, they usually still do their share of "chick" things when it comes to drama and the like.
2) In as much as it can be frustrating to try to understand the average woman, I don't want to date a dude. I am willing to accept some normal annoyances, like taking a little too long to get ready, or not wanting do a few guy things, not being into sports, etc-in the interest of having the girl be feminine. That's what your guy friends are for.
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Usually the type that says that are AW's.
Gotta avoid those types at all costs man.
Gotta avoid those types at all costs man.
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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KontrollerX said:Usually the type that says that are AW's.
Gotta avoid those types at all costs man.
good point as it is also usually the girl who has more guy friends then girlfriends because it is "less drama"
Schadenfreudianslip
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If a women claims to be like a guy AND claims to hate other women because they're drama llamas, run like hell. In those cases, they're usually too insecure to be around other females and eliminate competition by men who will adore them unless they're totally repulsive.
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If a women claims to be like a guy AND claims to hate other women because they're drama llamas, run like hell. In those cases, they're usually too insecure to be around other females and eliminate competition by men who will adore them unless they're totally repulsive
Interesting. especialy seeing that this is you: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142606
If a women claims to be like a guy AND claims to hate other women because they're drama llamas, run like hell. In those cases, they're usually too insecure to be around other females and eliminate competition by men who will adore them unless they're totally repulsive
Interesting. especialy seeing that this is you: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142606
Schadenfreudianslip
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sosilky said:If a women claims to be like a guy AND claims to hate other women because they're drama llamas, run like hell. In those cases, they're usually too insecure to be around other females and eliminate competition by men who will adore them unless they're totally repulsive
Interesting. especialy seeing that this is you: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142606
I do have many male friends, but I have pretty much an equal number of female friends too. I don't profile the sexes, prejudge, or get territorial. I've known other female friends of males, and I do run into the ones who will claim to hate other women because of drama. I can attest that they are bad for guys and girls alike. They won't give any other women a chance, and they get territorial over the guys. They're not above trying to sabotage friendships. Also, I find it very insulting that they'd be so hateful against their own gender.
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I recall a Pook post making a statement associated with this such as there are people out there that believe Feminine men do better with Masculine women and Pook said it's a false assumption to believe that were so because girls today were the same type of girls of the yesteryear before modern technology or equal rights. Each girl is different and will intrepret romance or gestures of romance differently so you have to be observant. I highly recommend considering a 'cost vs benefit' analysis when getting into a relationship with a girl. It is rare to meet a woman that is more independently inclined than the rest. Especially if she's outgoing, more than often extroverts are needier than introverts.
sosilky said:Ever dated a girl that says she is like a dude? I mean they will sit there and think they are not drama queens or irational or needy or whatever but then in the end they think with there emotions still? They still wind up acting like a gorl in the long run
betterthandead said:I recall a Pook post making a statement associated with this such as there are people out there that believe Feminine men do better with Masculine women and Pook said it's a false assumption to believe that were so because girls today were the same type of girls of the yesteryear before modern technology or equal rights. Each girl is different and will intrepret romance or gestures of romance differently so you have to be observant. I highly recommend considering a 'cost vs benefit' analysis when getting into a relationship with a girl. It is rare to meet a woman that is more independently inclined than the rest. Especially if she's outgoing, more than often extroverts are needier than introverts.
Very interesting post
Schadenfreudianslip
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Most women don't know what it's really like to be treated like a guy. Women talk about feelings, and we need honest adoration and intimacy. There is nothing wrong with this. Unfortunately it's now considered by some women to be "uncool" to have feminine characteristics. Many do it in order to seek approval from males, hoping that it will make them seem low maintenance and attractive. When they find themselves being treated like guys, they miss the intimacy and attention. As much as I admire women breaking the old fashioned gender roles, I wish that women would realize that it's okay to have feminine characteristics. Heck, I have no shame in the fact that I played with dolls as a kid.
Schadenfreudianslip
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Re: Sosilky
I have both male and female friends, I don't prejudge by gender, and I don't get territorial over male friends. I have been acquainted with other females with male friends, and I've found the ones who claim to prefer males to females because of drama and cattiness to be downright dangerous sometimes. They don't give other females a chance, no matter how drama-free and threat-free they are. They constantly claim that other females are catty, backstabbing, and jealous of them, and often take advantage of the instinctual male hero complex. They also aren't above sabotaging friendships between "their" guy friends and other female friends of the guy friends. While I admit that females have plenty wrong with them (I could write a book on men's faults too), there are plenty of enlightened, drama-free women in this world who make good friends. My female friends are tough, witty, compassionate, drama-free, loyal, and sensible. It hasn't been easy finding them, but the bad apples I've run into hasn't ruined my opinion of women and caused me to go AW at all the available guys. It also disgusts me that they act that way against their own gender.
I have both male and female friends, I don't prejudge by gender, and I don't get territorial over male friends. I have been acquainted with other females with male friends, and I've found the ones who claim to prefer males to females because of drama and cattiness to be downright dangerous sometimes. They don't give other females a chance, no matter how drama-free and threat-free they are. They constantly claim that other females are catty, backstabbing, and jealous of them, and often take advantage of the instinctual male hero complex. They also aren't above sabotaging friendships between "their" guy friends and other female friends of the guy friends. While I admit that females have plenty wrong with them (I could write a book on men's faults too), there are plenty of enlightened, drama-free women in this world who make good friends. My female friends are tough, witty, compassionate, drama-free, loyal, and sensible. It hasn't been easy finding them, but the bad apples I've run into hasn't ruined my opinion of women and caused me to go AW at all the available guys. It also disgusts me that they act that way against their own gender.
I'm starting to think the girl i had in mind when i started this thread was an attention wh0re. I don't understand why she can't interact and have normal girlfriends like a normal girl. i begin to tackle that issue here : http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142616Schadenfreudianslip said:Re: Sosilky
My female friends are tough, witty, compassionate, drama-free, loyal, and sensible. It hasn't been easy finding them, but the bad apples I've run into hasn't ruined my opinion of women and caused me to go AW at all the available guys. It also disgusts me that they act that way against their own gender.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.