"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Whats your way of giving back to people?

Murk

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Hi friend.
I gifted my good friend $1200 when his girl of 7 years, kicked him out of their house (which he contributed the mortgage for) and he had to move back home with his parents. He was a mess, I was in Miami, so just sent money so he could redecorate his room, pay his car, to have my Godchildren over and be comfortable.

I've gifted smaller amounts to people but they then start regularly asking, so I cut them off and they don't get anything. I also lend and take slow payments, as long as I get the money back. I'm quite generous since I started making money, I don't love money, it's just useful.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've been assisting vets with benefits, claims and guidance from all my experiences thus far. Never wanted to until I found myself naturally having to do all of this for myself. I don't want them to go through the same struggles and I am now giving back to them without a second thought. I also travel to dangerous places and help people in need of guidance for their own trip planning purposes.
 

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What a great thread.

I contribute here for altruistic reasons, I chair a family foundation that supports various charities and causes, I offer business advice to family & friends and I also assist less fortunate people in various ways.

I have a handyman who I provide free rent & in exchange he keeps an eye on properties, fixes up his place & works for me as a priority at a discounted rate. He is Native American heritage & painted his little house in tribal colors, which I normally would not allow but in giving him the freedom to do that he gets to have that place as his home. It gives him a sense of pride and investment.

There are many big and small ways we can make a meaningful difference in the life of someone else.
 

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What a great thread.

I contribute here for altruistic reasons, I chair a family foundation that supports various charities and causes, I offer business advice to family & friends and I also assist less fortunate people in various ways.

I have a handyman who I provide free rent & in exchange he keeps an eye on properties, fixes up his place & works for me as a priority at a discounted rate. He is Native American heritage & painted his little house in tribal colors, which I normally would not allow but in giving him the freedom to do that he gets to have that place as his home. It gives him a sense of pride and investment.

There are many big and small ways we can make a meaningful difference in the life of someone else.
Thanks man I appreciate it. That's definitely a great way to give back. I'm sure he really appreciates that.

I'm bout to start feeding the homeless again and giving them clothes now that the weather is getting nice and you'll see them at their camps again. Some people tell me "why feed the homeless? in CHicago they have government assistance and cards to buy groceries".. But people forget those EBT cards don't buy fresh cooked food or clothes.. When I bring them some sizzling hot pizza and fresh box of donuts , they get lit up like its Christmas.. It's crazy too because some you can tell just how hungry they are.. Not sure if some of them barter all their food stamps away for clothing or alcohol or cigarettes but its nice to see them run up and start eating right away as if they have been starving the whole day.

I think more than anything though they cherish getting new clothes.. Seen some real excitement from these dudes and gals just to get new clothes and blankets and stuff that can make their little tents more comfortable.

Lil Ceasers and Dunkin Donuts is the go-to .. Lil Ceasers i so cheap I just get a buncha boxes , buncah 2 liters of soda and 1 dozen donuts. Gonna try to aim for once a week. Before i would do it twice a month
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I not sure if saying you find out of shape 45 year old men "gross" on a Men´s forum is much of a contribution.

(Just messin with you)
Only the ones who have “let themselves go” lol.

My fiancé is 46. He is NOT gross, trust me ;)
 

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Free guitar lessons to people getting started, coaching vocalists, giving fishing gear to fellow commercial fishermen in need.
 

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I only give back to people who have been good to me. They are few and far between. Most people are unconscious fvcks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I don't really do anything unless someone specifically comes to me for help. For instance I loaned a guy $250 the other day, not even a close friend but an acquitance who I trusted. I would loan close friends or family thousands at least.

I think the other side of this coin is that you must help yourself before you can expect to help others. However the act of helping others less fortunate than ourselves always remains valuable. I do think it's funny that ultimately we do it because it makes us feel better.
 
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