"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What's Your Therapy?

WesCottII

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Getting all the rage in me, out always helps. Perhaps organising a cage fight, or working the punch bag, or just hammering the weights.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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+1 for Tool <3 10,000 Days

I enjoy hitting the bag, good stress reducer, mind focusing.
Driving on the mountain roads, best done at night however.
And exploring local mountain trails work best.
Meditation helps, but can be difficult when you have a lot of stuff on your mind.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
How could I ever forget this?

Sorry Maynard :(
Shame on you!

and I'll add one more thing...going camping
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Señor Fingers said:
I love Aboleo's idea of a DIY deprivation tank.
(You may want to start a new thread for that so you can help out people who want to do this)
Sure. If enough people were interested I'd be happy to take the time to write it out step by step in detail. I kinda' doubt it, however. :)




Señor Fingers said:
Smoke a fattie (very rare these days, but comes in handy)
I'm in love with Mary Jane. I havn't been smoking much lately, but I love getting stoned when I have the opportunity. :D


Señor Fingers said:
Have sex.
I like sex. It's nice.:up:
 

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lifting
sex - whacking it stopped working for me about a year or two ago.
visiting with the girlfriends
visiting with my friends
cycling
walking - warm weather is better
playing a game or two - Age of Empires 2 is always fun or Mario Kart

comic_relief
 

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paintball

nothing takes the edge off like peppering a kid in the face with paint
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Doing an hour of cardio- helps regulate the cortisol levels and makes me too tired to stress over anything.

Videogames- the best escapism on the planet.

Long walks during the summer- the fresh air is awesome at times in Michigan. At least when we don't have a random heat wave all too common of Michigan with its random weather anyway.
 

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Ok so Fingz is going to think I'm a stalker or suck-up but...

-Reading WOMS

Seriously I was feeling like total sh!t tonight but after reading it I feel renewed again :D
 

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Tool is pretty sick. i also like to listen to some other types of metal.
 

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I paint, draw, play guitar, sculpt, I get paid to be creative for the most part as it is, but these are passions and I don't really consider them therapy in terms of them being activities I need in order to relax. I want to say lifting too, but I'm only really relaxed afterwards and I think aggression is really a prerequisite for a good workout anyway.

The only thing I do regularly that qualifies as "therapy" is fishing, preferably with a light beer in the other hand.
 

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Listen To Music
Lift
Punching Bag
Sex (or solo, sex isnt always available)
Paintball (But local field got shut down so not anymore for a while)
Eat (I know it's a typical American response)
Party!!!!
Possibly g or 2 if ya know what I mean ;)
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah mj used to be my escape until it turned into a dungeon of no motivation and stayin in by myself.

I have found that I enjoy all the same things when I am not high, but there is something about weed that makes mundane things more enjoyable.

My escapes are:
music, playing and listening(sublime and CCR are my faves)
fishing(just getting used to the salt water game, caught my first fish in florida over the weekend from shore)
weightlifting(before I hurt my shoulder earlier this year)
boxing (punching bags don't hit back)
soft martial arts like tai chi and yoga
going to the beach(moved to florida)
playing with my min pin
running
offroad biking
talking with old friends on the phone
playing my djembe (african drum)
watching UFCs, esp. in person
 

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ValleyDJing said:
Marijuana. Then...just about anything is a good time.
I can't fault anyone for enjoying that.

For me lately, it has been mixed martial arts. If you think you would kick some ass in a fight, like most guys do, go and find your local mma dojo and wrestle with a few dozen guys who all beat the hell out of you with about as much effort as Neo puts into fighting agents in the Matrix sequels. Then start to learn that fighting is an art, and learn that art for yourself. Then when you stumble across someone who gets in your face and wants to fight, you can laugh them off and take the fight out of them with your complete lack of fear. All of this has happened to me in the last month.
 

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Señor Fingers said:
When you can't take it anymore and life seems to be dragging you down, what do you do to get out of that funk?

For me nothing works better than

• Listening to and making music
• Dancing (even if its in my undies)
• Bike ride
• Mini-vacation / adventure with my lady
• Night out with the fellas
• Playing with my cat

Any of these things instantly dissolve my worries.

How do you guys deal with the daily grind?
- Lift heavy weights.
- Be an total assh*le.
- Contact sports, F*ck sh*t up!

I don't like people who drink and do drugs to have "fun." Seriously alcohol taste like sh*t if it ain't high quality or mixed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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