"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What's Your Therapy?

WesCottII

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Getting all the rage in me, out always helps. Perhaps organising a cage fight, or working the punch bag, or just hammering the weights.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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+1 for Tool <3 10,000 Days

I enjoy hitting the bag, good stress reducer, mind focusing.
Driving on the mountain roads, best done at night however.
And exploring local mountain trails work best.
Meditation helps, but can be difficult when you have a lot of stuff on your mind.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
How could I ever forget this?

Sorry Maynard :(
Shame on you!

and I'll add one more thing...going camping
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Señor Fingers said:
I love Aboleo's idea of a DIY deprivation tank.
(You may want to start a new thread for that so you can help out people who want to do this)
Sure. If enough people were interested I'd be happy to take the time to write it out step by step in detail. I kinda' doubt it, however. :)




Señor Fingers said:
Smoke a fattie (very rare these days, but comes in handy)
I'm in love with Mary Jane. I havn't been smoking much lately, but I love getting stoned when I have the opportunity. :D


Señor Fingers said:
Have sex.
I like sex. It's nice.:up:
 

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lifting
sex - whacking it stopped working for me about a year or two ago.
visiting with the girlfriends
visiting with my friends
cycling
walking - warm weather is better
playing a game or two - Age of Empires 2 is always fun or Mario Kart

comic_relief
 

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paintball

nothing takes the edge off like peppering a kid in the face with paint
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Doing an hour of cardio- helps regulate the cortisol levels and makes me too tired to stress over anything.

Videogames- the best escapism on the planet.

Long walks during the summer- the fresh air is awesome at times in Michigan. At least when we don't have a random heat wave all too common of Michigan with its random weather anyway.
 

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Ok so Fingz is going to think I'm a stalker or suck-up but...

-Reading WOMS

Seriously I was feeling like total sh!t tonight but after reading it I feel renewed again :D
 

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Tool is pretty sick. i also like to listen to some other types of metal.
 

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I paint, draw, play guitar, sculpt, I get paid to be creative for the most part as it is, but these are passions and I don't really consider them therapy in terms of them being activities I need in order to relax. I want to say lifting too, but I'm only really relaxed afterwards and I think aggression is really a prerequisite for a good workout anyway.

The only thing I do regularly that qualifies as "therapy" is fishing, preferably with a light beer in the other hand.
 

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Listen To Music
Lift
Punching Bag
Sex (or solo, sex isnt always available)
Paintball (But local field got shut down so not anymore for a while)
Eat (I know it's a typical American response)
Party!!!!
Possibly g or 2 if ya know what I mean ;)
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yeah mj used to be my escape until it turned into a dungeon of no motivation and stayin in by myself.

I have found that I enjoy all the same things when I am not high, but there is something about weed that makes mundane things more enjoyable.

My escapes are:
music, playing and listening(sublime and CCR are my faves)
fishing(just getting used to the salt water game, caught my first fish in florida over the weekend from shore)
weightlifting(before I hurt my shoulder earlier this year)
boxing (punching bags don't hit back)
soft martial arts like tai chi and yoga
going to the beach(moved to florida)
playing with my min pin
running
offroad biking
talking with old friends on the phone
playing my djembe (african drum)
watching UFCs, esp. in person
 

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ValleyDJing said:
Marijuana. Then...just about anything is a good time.
I can't fault anyone for enjoying that.

For me lately, it has been mixed martial arts. If you think you would kick some ass in a fight, like most guys do, go and find your local mma dojo and wrestle with a few dozen guys who all beat the hell out of you with about as much effort as Neo puts into fighting agents in the Matrix sequels. Then start to learn that fighting is an art, and learn that art for yourself. Then when you stumble across someone who gets in your face and wants to fight, you can laugh them off and take the fight out of them with your complete lack of fear. All of this has happened to me in the last month.
 

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Señor Fingers said:
When you can't take it anymore and life seems to be dragging you down, what do you do to get out of that funk?

For me nothing works better than

• Listening to and making music
• Dancing (even if its in my undies)
• Bike ride
• Mini-vacation / adventure with my lady
• Night out with the fellas
• Playing with my cat

Any of these things instantly dissolve my worries.

How do you guys deal with the daily grind?
- Lift heavy weights.
- Be an total assh*le.
- Contact sports, F*ck sh*t up!

I don't like people who drink and do drugs to have "fun." Seriously alcohol taste like sh*t if it ain't high quality or mixed.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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