"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What's your seduction strategy ?

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  • Always plan ahead. It wasn't raining when Noah built the ark.
  • Before beginning, plan carefully.
  • All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.
  • Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.
  • Developing the plan is actually laying out the sequence of events that have to occur for you to achieve your goal.
  • Always have a plan, and believe in it. Nothing happens by accident.
  • A good plan is like a road map: it shows the final destination and usually the best way to get there.

These are just a few quotes that reveal the true secret to achieve something is to plan, and follow your plan. Now I would like to know what are your plans about womens. I know that most of you have made unconcious plans, and you might not be aware of them.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't think you should plan anything.

Well, let me rephrase. There's really very little to plan, because conversations are so unpredictable. It's like chess, in a way. You can study strategy and tactics and everything you possibly want, but in the end, each game is individual and cannot be planned entirely.

And people are much more complicated than chess!

A good roadmap is helpful, sure, and I think that many companies out there help people find roadmaps.

But if you don't actually start doing approaches, you will get nowhere. Absolutely nowhere.

I actually took a bootcamp, and am in regular contact with an instructor to advise me.

However, there's no progress, and nothing to talk about, unless I do approaches.

So if we're talking about plans, don't talk about planning carefully. That's an excuse for people to spend six months on forums, trying to find the magic bullet that will make their approach anxiety go away.

For every hour on a board, spend at least two outside. Even if you aren't approaching.

That's what I did. I went to a park every damn day, and for a couple weeks never approached anyone. Part of the reason I finally did it was I was just so damn tired of walking all day to no purpose.

The DJ bootcamp is awesome. Seriously, for a free document, it's a very high quality one, just as good as a lot of pay products, because it right away gets you to go out in public. That's the goal here.

All these eBooks and videos and kits and programs are all bull****.

All that matters is YOU getting in the field.

So DONT plan - start doing!
 

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I don't have problems approaching ... I also don't have problems with girls. The only this I want to do is to be more powerful around them , and make them act how I want on a defined plan, and take them where I want according to a plan.
 

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You sound like some mad-scientist trying to build the ultimate atom bomb to destroy everything in sight.
 

marinetti

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good to know. i was just making sure.

my strategy is

Approach
Logistics (who's she with, how did she get there, does she have work tomorrow? does she have a boyfriend? how's the relationship?)
Make conversation sexual / start flirting
Close (generally at least a kiss)

Times depend, though conversations can usually be sexual within 15 min or so.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Good stuff marinetti
 
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