I met this girl this past weekend at a bar. we danced all night, had a good time, and exchanged numbers. i asked her to go out this friday. she said yeah sure that'd be great. she then texts me yesterday saying how she talked to Jennifer, whos a mutual friend of ours, and they came up with this plan for us to all go on a double date. when she asked me what i thought of that, i said works for me, but in reality i hate double dates and didnt know what else to say. i don't like double dates for a first date because its hard to get to know someone unlike a regular date because all you have to talk to is that person you're with, not two other people and that person youre on the date with. do you think this girl might not be comfortable with me yet to go out with just me? i surely didnt get that vibe at all from her the other night when we met. any opinions about this? can i backout of the date now?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
what's your opinion of double dates for a first date?
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