"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What's your favorite charity? My experience on receiving financially, when giving!

ChapStick

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Ever since I got my job, I decided it would be a good idea to tithe 10% of my paychecks to charities. Something I have noticed is all the money that I've given out, I've received back, but in greater amounts!

My parents, who usually don't buy me things (hence the job), bought me several items that are worth well over the amount I had donated. I've been finding dollar bills on the ground on an almost daily basis. My paycheck at work says I worked WAY more hours than I thought I worked (didn't really pay attention). I feel happier and healthier than I ever have.

I've read some Biblical passage saying, "Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, crushed down, full and running over, they will give to you. For in the same measure as you give, it will be given to you again."

I was quite skeptical on this until I had actually done it! I read another article saying how giving money for a good cause puts you in a mindset of knowing that more money will come to you, that's why you're able to give. Notice guys like Bill Gates and Warren Buffett have given generously. Hmmmm....

What I want to know is, do you guys know of any charities that actually handle the money properly so that most of it goes out to help people? Kids, people with disabilities, etc...? If you do, please post them here!

I strongly advise those of you with money coming in, to just give a little something once in a while! Most of us are so blessed financially (especially here in America), I believe the least we can do is share a little something to help others!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Most charities are pure BS. For every $10 you donate, something like $1 dollars gets there. The rest is used to pay salaries, accomodation etc for the people working at the charity.
 

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Man.. That sucks to know.. I looked at the public financial records of the charity I donate to, and they only spend 8% of donations on the staff expenses, so I guess it also depends on the charity.
 

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The passage you referred to is Luke 6:37.

"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

It bears a striking resemblance to Buddhist theology regarding karma.

btw, my favorite charity is Families Against Mandatory Minimums - http://www.famm.org/
 

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Bible_Belt said:
The passage you referred to is Luke 6:37.

"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

It bears a striking resemblance to Buddhist theology regarding karma.

btw, my favorite charity is Families Against Mandatory Minimums - http://www.famm.org/
Have you also experienced blessings from giving?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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But how would you know if you had?

A more Zen question would be - can we even tell a blessing from a curse? A small curse is a blessing if it keeps you from a larger curse. But again, we never really know what events are related.

I did get a hand-written thank-you from the famm president when I joined about ten years ago. I was kind of impressed with that.
 
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ChapStick said:
Ever since I got my job, I decided it would be a good idea to tithe 10% of my paychecks to charities. Something I have noticed is all the money that I've given out, I've received back, but in greater amounts!

I've read some Biblical passage saying, "Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, crushed down, full and running over, they will give to you. For in the same measure as you give, it will be given to you again."
What this means is that your spirit will be uplifted, and not your wallet!! Giving paper and receiving paper is not the purpose! It is the inner well being you receive from helping others!
 
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