"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Whats your definiton of a "plate"?

Whats your defintion of a plate

  • A girl who i have contact with period

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • A girl who I see regularly (talk/intimate)

    Votes: 7 58.3%
  • I'm a KBJ so a girl on myspace page is a plate to me

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Solomon's Defintion

    Votes: 3 25.0%
  • Other

    Votes: 2 16.7%

  • Total voters
    12

Solomon

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I see lot of guys talking about "plates" and such. I was just curious to know what your definiton of one was? is it a girl who you have contact with? someone you fcuk? date?

Personally I consider a plate a girl 1. That I've hung out with on one one basis. 2. There has been some level of intimacy

However unlike most I don't call them "plates" but girls on the roster (i.e.basketball team lol)

For me girls who I got numbers but haven't done the two things I just consider prospects

I'm just curious to know peoples definiton on this topic, since I've seen some guys claim they have 8 plates etc etc

Solo
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Furyguy

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My understanding of it: a girl that you have some interest in, with whom you either could, or will attempt to, transition into a serious relationship with.

So a girlfriend is not. A **** buddy is. A girl you have dated casually is. A friend is not. A casual acquaintance you plan on pursuing is. A girl who was already shot you down is not.

So basically not friendship in that there is a sexual aspect, but without any commitment yet. Pretty close to what you said.



But I don't use the term except for on these forums anyways. I think labels like this are stupid and just cloud your head with unnecessary theory bull****. They're great for teaching new guys the theory though!
 

bigjohnson

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If I'm not screwing her, she's not a plate. I have to have gotten in her pants more than once and still be maintaining contact with on a regular basis. If I can't call her up and set up a date that will end up in boinking within a week she's not a plate, she's a friend.
 

Smack

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To me, it is a girl I believe I have a reasonable chance of intimate relations with. Nothing has to be happening between us, we can be friends or just see her occasionally (but know that she fancies me). Obviously, not all female friends are plates, and neither is some girl that's all over me in at a club.
 

daygameguy

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A plate is a female you have an intimate relationship with. Sex may/may not be a part of your relationship yet, but its intimate, can lead to something serious (girlfriend/LTR).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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