"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What's wrong with me?

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This is a cry for help to my fellow men in the dating business. I hope you can help me out.

I find myself not wanting to initiate contact with any girl. I broke up with my 2-year only girflriend about 2 years ago, and was really a mess. For some reason I wasn't being atracted to the women I knew, had many female friends but wasn't into any of them, I even turned down a girl I was spending a lot of time with (as friends) cause she wanted to be with me as a couple.
A few weeks ago I finally met someone I totally liked. It was a party, I approached her like a true DJ, we danced all night and then abruptly she left cause she was with some friends (actually two of my best friends).
To make the story short I had our mutual friends fix me up one night we all went to a club. The next day I asked her out, we catched a movie and talked, but guess what? after meeting her I again found myself not liking this girl that a few nights ago had me all thrilled up.

Yesterday I realized when I'm walking a street I don't look at girls in the eyes. As soon as I realized that I fixed into the next girl that went by and she fixed on me back, I chickened out.

Am I afraid of women of something? Maybe it's a personality issue... Any advice?

BTW: I'm 22.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Did you ever have lots of experience with girls when you were younger?

Or a male role-model?

Did your mother raise you?

There is an internal reason why you are lacking motivation, and you know that you have the syptoms of this in your life and in your relationships with females.

You don't have to say on this board unless you are comfortable with the possible judgement of others. Pm me if you want nevertheless and it will all remain confidential.
 
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Take it easy bro ..

1. Don't think too much. Just enjoy being with them ..

2. Do not be afraid. They are girls not some wild man eating animals! (although some women look like they can eat men for sure)
 
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you're still attached to your ex girlfriend. that's it.
 
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although from time to time girls do try to bite..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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