Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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what's wrong with me?

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there is this girl i've been noticing for some time during my collage lectures and i think she notices me a bit too,

last week, during an exam she sat in the chair in front-left of me (allocated seating)

after exam over, and everybody was sitting down chatting, waiting for examiners to collect papers, she wasn't talking to anybody, but for some reason turned around in her chair and sat facing towards me
she wasn't batting her eyelashes at me or anything, just facing in my general direction, which is weird, cos if you bored and got nothign better to do but wait, just face forward

she didn't know anybody around her, and i didn't know anybody around me, so neither of us said anything

and i'm thinking to myself "if there is ever a chance for you to talk to her, THIS is that time"

but i just sat there, staring straight ahead, not even looking at her and making eye contact like i normaly would. and i couldn't work up the courage, or come up with anything that could break they ice. we have been giving each other brief reciprocating eye contact for a bit (bout a year (but i in no way have oneitis, just interested)).

i did a bit of a test, i turned my head slightly left to make her think i'm going to look at her, but i never really look all the way, and she turned her head away instantly, so she was probably looking at me

wtf is wrong with me?? or am i just reading into this too much?

:confused:


goddammit!! i have one more exam if shes there again, im goign to bloody talk to her!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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rocky_mtn

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3 second rule...

between the time that you know you should talk to her and the time that you say something. It doesnt' matter what you say, just say something. Talk about the weather, the local sports team, her coat or backpack, whatever.
 

BigOlePappy

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say something dumb. you will be able to say it without worrying about whether or not she will think it is dumb.... because it is. thus no fear.

plus, something dumb is 20304034030 times better than saying nothing at all.
if she rejects you, so what? crying over rejection is for AFC
 

BigOlePappy

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plus if she is interested, it really doesn't matter what you say, as long as you don't come off like a serial murderer.

she will just be glad you talked to her.

try this: "hey, i need your advice." "what shoes should I wear with this shirt?"
 

BigOlePappy

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oh yeah, and to answer your question "what is wrong with you?"
you are getting oneitis.
you are investing way too much thought/emotion in one girl.
also, you are afraid of rejection
:D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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