"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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what's wrong with me?

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there is this girl i've been noticing for some time during my collage lectures and i think she notices me a bit too,

last week, during an exam she sat in the chair in front-left of me (allocated seating)

after exam over, and everybody was sitting down chatting, waiting for examiners to collect papers, she wasn't talking to anybody, but for some reason turned around in her chair and sat facing towards me
she wasn't batting her eyelashes at me or anything, just facing in my general direction, which is weird, cos if you bored and got nothign better to do but wait, just face forward

she didn't know anybody around her, and i didn't know anybody around me, so neither of us said anything

and i'm thinking to myself "if there is ever a chance for you to talk to her, THIS is that time"

but i just sat there, staring straight ahead, not even looking at her and making eye contact like i normaly would. and i couldn't work up the courage, or come up with anything that could break they ice. we have been giving each other brief reciprocating eye contact for a bit (bout a year (but i in no way have oneitis, just interested)).

i did a bit of a test, i turned my head slightly left to make her think i'm going to look at her, but i never really look all the way, and she turned her head away instantly, so she was probably looking at me

wtf is wrong with me?? or am i just reading into this too much?

:confused:


goddammit!! i have one more exam if shes there again, im goign to bloody talk to her!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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3 second rule...

between the time that you know you should talk to her and the time that you say something. It doesnt' matter what you say, just say something. Talk about the weather, the local sports team, her coat or backpack, whatever.
 

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say something dumb. you will be able to say it without worrying about whether or not she will think it is dumb.... because it is. thus no fear.

plus, something dumb is 20304034030 times better than saying nothing at all.
if she rejects you, so what? crying over rejection is for AFC
 

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plus if she is interested, it really doesn't matter what you say, as long as you don't come off like a serial murderer.

she will just be glad you talked to her.

try this: "hey, i need your advice." "what shoes should I wear with this shirt?"
 

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oh yeah, and to answer your question "what is wrong with you?"
you are getting oneitis.
you are investing way too much thought/emotion in one girl.
also, you are afraid of rejection
:D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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