You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How game can be less? Game after a while should be an integral part of your identity, so how can you behave less than yourself?You are correct and onto something brother, Good quality woman can see the playerish fassage a mile away and will have no problems backing off. The best type of relationships often goes with the flow and requires no games on your part because you're coming from a good frame, value and a sense of purpose. The less games the better.
I would replace the word “game” with “value”. Have value and you will naturally and authentically behave in your best ways. You won’t even have to think about “game”. “Game” is a childish word. As adults, let’s use the word “value” instead. The word “value” cuts through all the bs and theories.I think a man should always employ a bit of "Game" in his relationships and in life... so should women (Girl Game).
However...
There is a big difference between 'having game" and 'playing games'... below sums it up beautifully imo.
>>"Having game" is the confident, authentic ability to flirt, converse and spark attraction, whereas "playing games" is a manipulative, dishonest approach involving mind f*cks, shyt tests and extreme push-pull tactics.
While 'having game' builds connection, 'playing games' causes mistrust, anxiety, and instability.<<
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
All relations between humans contain "games" of some sortIf you actually found a good woman, you might not want to play games.